Out of control kids

I do not allow my kids to be rude in public, or otherwise. If we are at a grocery store, I may use leverage such as a treat for good behavior. I will remove myself and my child if they are being rude in church, the library or a movie theater, where people expect peace and quiet. I have sat, the entire length of a movie, with my son in the car until my daughter and hubby have finished watching.

Yes I do hater out of control kids. If I were at a restraunt i would just leave and explain the the child why. He is old enough to understand. If I were at church I would tak the child out of the santurary and explain to him that he is to sit still and be quite. I would also bring maybe some colors and a color book for him to entertain him self. No way would I take him to the nursery because he will not learn how to act in chruch. If he becam too disruptive I think I find a corner to stand him in for 3 minuates. Then explain to him how heis to act in church. If he misbehaved again back to the corner until he understood he was not going to go play until after church.

If you are in a nice restaurant, I think the child should be reprimanded once and then if they continue to misbehave they should be taken outside so they don't disturb the other diners. In a fast food restaurant, you might put up with a little more noise! I think it is good for children to go to church, if they make a little noise the pastor will just have to speak a little louder, although a child who is crying should be taken outside or to the nursery. I feel sorry for kids whose parents allow them to act up in public places, it makes me wonder if the parents have any control over them at home, either. Just wait until those kids are teens, the parents will have their hands full!

I usually reprimand them at first with out bothering anybody around me then if I have to walk out because they will not calm down. I will punish them for not be considerate to other people around them. It only takes a few times. Now that are well behaved when we go out inpublic. I don't like when my kids or anyother kids get out of control. I feel it is so inconsiderate to the people around me.

I use a reward system for good behavior and time outs and loss of privledges for bad behavior. This works in public or at home. If my daughter is acting up in public I remind her to use her indoor voice and to calm down, I also remind her she will lose a marble (I will explain the marble in a minute). If she keeps it up then I give her a time out and tell her she lost a marble. Once her time out is complete we have a talk, I tell her why she got the time out, remind her I love her and then continue on like nothing happened. If she acts up a third time and we are in public we will leave, then when she gets home she loses a privelege such as video games or TV, or some other activity we had planned, and she loses another marble. When she is good in public, or at home she earns a marble. Now for the marbles. We have a jar on the counter in the kitchen, beside it is a bowl of marbles, every time she does something good such as cleaning up after herself or using her manners and being polite in public she gets to take a marble out of the bowl and put it in the jar. If she misbehaves one marble comes out of the jar and into the bowl, once all the marbles are in the jar the jar is emptied back into the bowl and I take her to the dollar store and she is allowed to pick out one thing from there, it can be anything in the store at all (and since nothing in the store costs more then a dollar it is never anything too big). Eventually wen she is older I will equate the marbles into cash value and use it for allowance. I find this system generally keeps her inline. She feels horrible when she loses a marble, and she is so excited when she gets one.

I would warm them and if they didn't desist I would leave wherever we were, every time. My oldest behaves beautifully because of this, but the younger less so. He is a real daddy's boy, and his dad lets him get away with murder in public. It is funny to see how much better he behaves in public when his dad isn't around, and it is because he knows I won't put up with it.

I would take them outside to talk to them

Oh, the joys of having a 3 year old! Bless your heart for being concerned with this. So many parents don't. I think that removing your child should be a last resort because I don't think they learn how to behave then. They'll just grow accustomed to making a scene when they're someplace they don't want to be because you'll remove them if they get disruptive. Explain the rules and consequences beforehand and be ready to endure the dirty looks from other people. When my kids were little, if they acted up and someone made a face, I'd ask that person to explain to my children why they were displeased. Sometimes the comments coming from other people made more of an impact on them.