Would you hold a bad past of a currently good person against them?
By MaSunny
@MaSunny (61)
United States
February 26, 2007 12:20pm CST
If a person used to be either overweight, slobby, a criminal, acne-inflicted, physically unattractive, a womanizer, had a bad personality, etc. as you knew them back then or later found out that was how they were back then, but they have changed their ways for the better, would you use such a past against them? Assuming you were not/would not be attracted to them at all as a friend, a hookup, or a lover back then, would you not care about being with them even if they have changed today?
2 responses
@MBourgeois (177)
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26 Feb 07
I think you're being particularly nasty; being overweight isn't what I would describe as a "bad past" and having acne is the common lot for most teenagers at some point in their lives, so you really can't discriminate on that basis solely.
Furtherfore, my boyfriend used to be a womanizer. I think he still is to some extent, but I trust him to let me know if he's interested in another girl before actually doing something. If you can't trust the person, then there's no use in being with them, in my opinion.
@MaSunny (61)
• United States
26 Feb 07
How is being overweight not a bad past? It's unhealthy to begin with and generally repels potential dates or even professional opportunities and such, unless however they (the overweight person) were proud or fine with being overweight and doesn't mind the past, then that's different.
Thank you for the rest of your response.
@Only1Andrea (796)
• United States
26 Feb 07
I wouldn't hold a bad past against a good person. No one is perfect. We have all made mistakes and would not like for our past to be held against us. As long as the person has learned from their ways and if their past is of no detriment to them now or to me then what is in the past is in the past.
*** I think it is good to discuss the past with the current person you are with because that doesn't leave room for that person to be surprised if the past should ever come up.
