abortion

It's the whole "grin and bare and find time and productivity to fade it out" type of thing or she just wants to keep it locked in the past much like the rest of us have things that we'd rather not talk about, suppress, or get over with.

dude ur lucky to have a friend who looked up to u when she really needed u...........juz think dat y didnt she tell about it to neone but u.......'cos she expected something really big frm ur friendship.....nice to hear dat u were able to help her.......u may want to share about wat she actually felt it like when it happened........but try to understand her......there r somethings in her past dat she doesnt want to talk about to neone.........she must be hating even to recall........dat something lik dat happened.......so wat i wud advice u is plz help her forgettin it rather than asking about wat ahe felt lik n all dat

I think it depends entirely on the situation to determine how a woman reacts to an abortion. If I read correctly, only the two of you know about the abortion, which means she hasn't talke to it about anyone and is trying to pretend it didn't happen. If she is really hurting about it, as it seems she is, she needs to talk about it, cry about it and get it out before she'll ever get better. Put together a "girls' night" or something, get the two of you alone in a quiet, private place. Tell her how much you care about her and how hard of a time she must be having. Then tell her she needs to let out her feelings or they will simply eat her from the inside out and she'll only keep feeling worse and worse. Be as caring and supporting as absolutely possible and just give her the time to let it out. In the same way you would suck the venom out of a snake bite, you need to get all those feelings out of her before she can start healing.

I am sure it is just a case of wanting to let that in the past. Since you accompanied her you are part of that past that she wants to forget. Not you but that particular situation. Depending on when she had the abortion I would say that is a raw nerve right now and needs time for her to heal emotionally. If this is a good friend I would try to reach out to her and try to get her to talk to you. Feel out how she feels about the fact that you went with her. Let her know that you don't look down on her for doing this. That you were there for moral support and still am. It is a hard thing for a women to go through a abortion. Even after the abortion she still has issues to deal with. You are a good friend to help her out by going with her there and now still continue to be her good friend and letting her know if she just needs to talk you are there.