Gay... born that way?

I believe that it can be both. There is no science to it. For myself, I believe that I was born gay. It is also easy for someone who is not gay to make that judgement of saying "I think its a choice," ... and my response to that is...how the hell do you know that without actually being gay? Its very arrogant to assume something about which you know nothing of or can relate to. I have never been attracted to girls...ever, and I never will be, so I dont kid myself about it. There are A LOT of gay people that wish they were straight so they wouldn't have to be subjected to as a minority.

I think so too! I also have a friend who happens to be a great ball player. When we're younger, he was really a hunk, a hearthrob. I never suspect that he was gay...it was only when I saw him again a year ago that I find out. He is now a SHE.

You are born that way. I have gay friends who would not wish being gay on anyone. They have tried to "change" with no success. Being gay is commonly looked down upon by society ( I personally dont understand this idea, they are people too...why should being gay be any different than being shy or being white or black??) Why would someone choose to be put in the position that society places them. People can be mean, and most of us choose to fit in, not out of the bounds. I have a family member who is a preschool teacher. She has had 4 year olds who she has pinpointed as more than likely to grow up to be gay. Sure enough years down the line, they have all turned out as she assumed. At 4 years old, a child doesnt know what gay or straight means. They only act as they are born to act. This to me proves it isnt a choice. It starts at birth and is sometimes obvious even in early childhood.

When one of my cousins was born, we knew he was gay. We knew from childhood that he was gay. He was different, and we could tell that. No one cared about it, it was the way he was born. I think people are born gay, some may choose it because they prefer it, but i think true gay people are born gay.

I suppose the mentality is there when u are born just like the mentality of what kind of person we will be is there. I also suppose its to do with experiences and nurturing, lieve evrything in life so I would say you are not born gay, but have the tendenseys to be gay.

Being gay, I didn't choose it but I just started feeling I was gay and attracted to men....

sometime environment take part or because long term traumatic so they turn to gay. at the end they had their choice