is it good to give everything for your love one?

I truly believe sometimes people confuse the meaning of love. Whatever your boyfriend may be to you, he does not love you! Have you read the famous "love chapter" in the bible. 1 Corinthians 13: "Love is always patient and kind. It is never jealous or boastful, it is never rude or selfish. Does not take offence, never is resentful, always tells the truth, ready to excuse, to trust, to hope and accept." Now if he is being selfish and does not listen then how does he love you? By saying the words "I love you"? And how do you feel it? By a shiver down your spine when you embrace? If you do not feel love by his actions and I mean by his being attentive, patient and kind to you, then what you are feeling is anything but love. I am hopeful that you will one day find someone who truly loves you and understand that what you have with this guy was not real, but I hope you don't have to endure too much more of this "false love" before you realise you really are not being loved. The best thing to do I believe is to stop seeing him. Sometimes you have to do something drastic to get people to see that you are serious about your principles. You deserve someone who will love you, and it may not be as much as you love him, but at least he must try to love you as much as you love him because loving you would be his way to show how much he appreciates your love and if he fails to love you as much as you love him (because no one can be perfect), at least it wouldn't be for the lack of trying. Although, I am not sure how anyone can fail to love, since it is quite easy if one follows the simple rules: be kind, be selfless, be patient, always listen, be ready to trust, accept, hope. If the one who aspires to love can judge their actions based on those principles (and adjust them to suit) it is quite difficult to fail at it! Being imperfect humans means we are likely to make a mess of it, but you should be able to tell when a person is making a sincere effort.

If your love is true and your lover is also true to you ,then you can do anything.Otherwise it is gambling in this cruel world.

I don't think that there is a rule that applies to all relationships. Or all people for that matter. I loved, I have been loved, and I tought that I gave everything, but looking back I didn't really did that, perhaps next time, if will ever be a next time. So, now that I gave my general opinion, your question : Is that worth loving him so much as you seems to do currently? If he is so selfish as you say, I think you should think again if you love him really, and if this relationship is worth all the energy you are investing on it, perhaps suffering now would be better than in the future.

i did that one time ... i gave him everythimg and i sweared i'll never do this stupid thing again. he never helped my with aything and the moment i've told him this he left me for another girl who used to give him everything and ask for nothing!!!!! don't let him hurt you like that!

ok 1st lets answer your question, is it good to give everything for you love one? the answer is it depends on the person, ask yourself is it worth giving him your everything sacrificing some of your joy for this person and in return did he appreciates you? Sometimes we cant help it give our everything because we love that person, the best thing to do to that guy is if he cant be taken by just talking to him, let him realize your important to him, saying iloveyou is easy but showing and making it feel is not that easy, if still its been a long time that your not being appreciated then think of yourself first thing first a person who knows how to love deserves someone better.

Give whatever we can and do not expect anything in return. If we have this mindset, we could be happier. To me, love is unconditional. If I love my family, I "try" not to expect anything in return. "Try" because we are all learning how to love properly. It could be a burden to us if we always expect something in return. When we do not get what we expect, we will most likely be disappointed and that will ruin our day. There is not much I can do with other people. But there is a lot I can do with myself. Start to change myself and my whole world may just change. It is not the world will change, in fact, the real change is my perspective toward others and situations.

My opinion is you need to heed the old and profound saying that goes"giving is better than taking" and when there is talk about love and loving this proverb applies even more. And if he tells you that he loves you so much that he would not want to break up with you then you gotta just ignore the irriatation his behavior causes you, men are often like that. Just remember one thing, for a woman it is the peak of her life to have a home, a loving hubby and a couple of kids to take care of, but men are not built like that. They are destined to overcome the horizons and a woman can't be set as their only goal. Dont call me a schauvinist, I am not like that, but this is my opinion, honest.

if he is selfish its his nature.you cant change his nature.if you want to stay with him you have to bear it.but the main question is whether he is cheating you?if yes then just throw him out of your life and if the answer is no and he loves you then according to me you have to make some compromishes as you cant get everything in life.just talk with him i am sure he will understand what's wrong with him and what need to be done.

Let me tell you a very important thing you should learn right now today! you never give up or give away your happiness for someone else. that is not love. let me tell you what love is. loves is i love me and i want to share the love I have for myself with you. love is i have more then enough and i want to share it with you. love is not giving up anything. he is not going to treat you better then you treat yourself. please honey, love yourself and invite him to share that. if he wants to take it, then send him packaging!!!!

obviously, you are having second thoughts if you stil love him. Giving is really not an issue here, but how you feel. Reflect on things. Reflect on what's going on with your relationship. trust your heart.

I gave my ex-wife everything I had inside and out. I sacrificed my career and lots of money trying to fix her problems for her. In hindsight that was a major mistake because you can not fix someone who does not want your help. However I would not take a thing back. I loved her deeply and the thought of leaving our marriage without throwing everything I had into it was unbearable. If you are not married then think very hard about continuing a dating relationship with this person. Time is the most important asset a person has these days don't waste it on the undeserving. www.porkrind333.com

Nor always it is good. the times are inevitavel. The times

its very difficult to explain but i will try my best... to start with..u say u love this guy and u gave ur best to him..... if i would be in ur place i wud 1st analyze my self and my approach towards him...if i clear my self of any mistake than i would stand in his position to see what he needs and thinks about me and that would also help me to see why he behaves in such a way wiht me....it will also give an image of how do i look thru his point of view... u try this it really works... secondly he his selfish as u say....lets solve it out... u cant find any human on earth who is not selfish...look at me ....i am here writing this to u so that i can earn...isnt it...but the other way round i am also trying to help you out....isnt that true...what i mean is there are some reasons of selfishness.... i always look for complex problem solutions the babys way{i call it baby therapy}...see if u keep a candy in fornt of a baby he will laugh,dance,cry...for it but u cant say that the baby is selfish....though he is...but the baby doesnt know that he is selfish...thats the point...u have to make him understand that he is selfish...may be he has lived all his live this way ....and he doesnt know tht he is behaving selfish...its u and only u who can make him understand this thing.{afterall helping each other to live is LOVE} and lastly u say he doesnt listen to u..its a big problem...lets solve it out... let him do all the talking..let him remove his all his frustrations out on you...afterall he doesnt have any better person than u to do so...let him keep talking...listen to him and remember each and everything carefully {this will be useful later on when u will get chance of talking}...also just be neutral..even if he blames u of something u havent ever done...dont react keep your calm...certainly he will calm down on seeing you such calm and quite....and thats the time...go near him...touch him...take his hands in yours...look into his eyes and start with"i understand what u are saying, but dont u think that we should sort this out...please listen to me as there is no one else in the whole world other than u who has always listened to me"(just say it i know he never listens to u...but do it.it will make him confident to listen to you) and then say whatever u have to..just remember not to get angry and make him comfortable to listen to u...once u succed in this he will always listen to you....try this out bye n take care

If you want to split with him then you don't love him - period.

Well if you feel his love for real then why doubt. All are not similar so expecting them to behave in a particular behaviours is not right on your part. Expectations kill the beautiful relationships so be patient with the guy.

You said you love him. But you don't like the attitude. So what kind of him can made you love him? Maybe you must hard thinking about this. Maybe we can change the attitude, but for a long time ago that's too dangerous. He can come back to his basic.

First rule. Love yourself more before you give your love to others. How can you give love when you don't even have enough for yourself? In love, you don't give all. You must save some for you. When this person is gone, what will become of you? Don't build your world around him especially if the guy is selfish and does not even reciprocate your love the way he's supposed to. Move on. You deserve someone who is worthy.

how did you say that he is so selfish? He loves only himself? In wahat matter? Anyways, sticking to your question if it good to give everything for your love one.. I agree to this, Your love one is your happiness, the only person you want and wish to have with.. Give everything for him for the simple reason you are happy seeing him happy. But girl, you must be so sure of what you really mean for him i mean know the truth if he really loves you.. Because when it comes to love, there is no such word as LOVING HIMSELF... it is always in two. Regarding to his attittude try to tell him the way you feel about it and if he is what he is and no change at all, then just accept him