are they right or wrong?

Um that is VERY VERY wrong! At my sisters school you have to be on a list, have ID out every time, even if they know you, they write down your ID number, you have to call in 3 hours in advance, and they deliver the child to you directly. NEVER EVER would it be considered safe for them to just let your child go, even if its your brother in law that picked him up. THey took his word on that? That is terribly frightning. I would be down there at that daycare making a HUGE fuss and throwing a tantrum about it. Thats so unsafe, what if some stranger figured out that they arent checking to see whos picking up kids. They could get kidnapped. I would seriouosly be ready to find a new care system, they gambled way too much that one time!

Most schools or daycare centers I know have a list given to them by the parents with a list of the people who are allowed to pick their children up. If they have never met you, I know a few that go so far as to ask for identification. If the person is not on the list they always call the parents. I would be very upset if this happened with my child. If they did not take these precautions I would seriously talk to whoever is in charge about it.

It is really serious negligency by school staff. This matter must be discussed into Parents Meeting, whenever it is called. It needs all around attention. It may happen with other children also. Someone strenger may pick up any child for ransom. The teacher should have phoned you first before handing over to uncle. They have done so. Please also brought to the attention of Principal.

the school shouldn't have done that... in fact, there are schools which have names and pictures of people who are allowed to pick up a child -- these are provided by the parents/guardian of the child. you're right, it's too dangerous. the school should have called you. On the other hand, your husband's brother should also have informed you that he has fetched your son.

Yes, the teacher should not have given your child out to someone they did not know and have never met before. They should have a least asked for some identofication and then called yourself or your husband and asked if they knew this person etc before giving the child to a stranger. Also you husbands brother shouldnt have gone to collect your son with out your permission, abviously if it wasnt cleared with yourselves first, then you or your husband would have been going to collect your son and get a fright when you get to the school and the teacher says "oh, some one else just came to collect your son 5minutes ago". You wouldnt know what had happened your child.

your childs school is absolutly wrong for letting your son leave with your brother in law.. where my son goes to school.. we have to provide names of the people that are allowed to pick him up from school.. when they arrive to pick my son up.. they have to show a photo identification card.. but not only that.. i still have to write a note in the morning.. notifying them.. that someone other than myself or my husband will be picking him up.. i'd sure have a lot to say to those people if i were you.. good luck

thats wrong and if he is not a signed in person by the two of you to pick him up, they should not let him leave. or if you had called and said he was to be picked up by the uncle. that would scare me.

the school is definitely wrong in letting your kid be fetched by other person other than you and your hubby.when the children are in school it is the school's responsibility to take care of the children and any untoward incident within the school premises is under the responsibility of the school. The school should have not allowed your hubby's brother to fetch your child, considering that there was no permissions from you. the school should have contacted you first before making the decision.it was a negligent act on the part of the school. what if it was a kidnapper who actually fetched your child? the school has to answer for their apparent negligence.

This is a clear case of irresponsibility from the school's side. Especially when the child is only two years old. Forgive me for saying so, if anything undesirable had happened, I would like to what the school would say? The school deserves to be questioned on this act. I am sorry that you as a mother had to go through such a difficult and dangerous situation .

I think its wrong. They should have at least called you and confirmed it or you tell them that someone else is picking them up. They have have least check it with you to make sure.

I agree with the people who are saying that the school should not have done that. When my father had surgery, I had to pick up my little sister (she was 2 at the time, I was 26) because he had to go back to the hospital because he was bleeding from his incision. I showed up there in a mess and didn't even think about what they would say when a person they had never seen came to pick my sister up. Thankfully, as soon as I got there, my sister started yelling out my name and ran up to me. I guess she spends a lot of time in school talking about her older sisters. Still, that wasn't quite enough to let me take her home. They had my father's phone number on record and called him to make sure that everything was how it should be. I know that some people would feel annoyed about having to wait while the teachers checked up on everything, but I found it really reassuring. My little sister is really precious and I'd rather they be overly cautious rather than not cautious enough. Besides, the extra time we had to wait gave me a chance to introduce myself to her other teachers so that when I came back to get her the next day, there was no trouble at all.

i don't think that was right because he could be picked up by alot of other people... what if its a kid napper or something? there should be like an i.d system or something there.

The school was completely out of line. Most preschools here have very specific guidelines for pick-ups, which they tell you in advanced. Most want a list of anyone who may pick up your child, then they want a note on days that it will be someone else & they ask to see the person's identification when they come to pick the child up. I think I would write a letter to the school's director and I would demand to see a written policy change or I'd put him in another school..

No! that is not acceptable at all! This guy could have been anybody, as far as they knew... You don't trust a 2year-old to tell you who he knows, either... They should know better!

I definitely think your son's playgroup is completely in the wrong here - it's very scary to think that they don't have some kind of system in place to establish who should be collecting a child. I mean anyone could turn up for him! If possible I would be looking at moving him to another playgroup where they have a better awareness of child safety. However, I also have to say it strikes me as a little strange that your husbands brother would just take it upon himself to pick your son up without discussing it with you or your husband first!

Th school doesnot know...who teh childs relatives are ...if they gave the child to a stranger, they should be pulled up for negligence of duty...they jsut acnnot give any child to an unknown person...let them have a piece of ur mind...

Definetely wrong. A child is the most precious thing on the planet and you have to respect all the possibilities that can take place in this world. I know it's a sad state of affairs when you have to lose your faith in your fellow human, but I don't see that you have any other choice right now. I would most certainly give someone a roasting over this incident. Love and light.

Beter to talk with the person responsible with your child and to the one who fetched your child. The teacher should be responsible for all of that what if something happened to the child what would they do. and let us not wait that something will happen you should talk to the teacher and to the principal maybe. You should also talk to your hubby's brother about this. He should not do this if he has a little respect to your hubby and you. He should have notified you first before he did it.

i think u shud sue the school management. how dare they did such a foolish act. had he wud not hav been ur hubby's bro someone else then. its really pethetic to know that education prioviding institute does such acts

i think its wrong yaa..in the initial stages of a child devolopment..the father and mother should be there in all aspects..if somebody picks your child up then your child can get used to strangers..so its you who has to take the responsiblity..