Girls, do you support this?

@dipima (172)
India
February 27, 2007 5:09am CST
I'm not being feminist here. Girls, while getting married generally change their surnames/lastnames to accept their husbands'. Will you do this? And what about guys? Is there any instance?
2 responses
@ginny36 (266)
• United States
27 Feb 07
It's a tough one. I believe for the most part that it is a personal decision and ultimately up to the couple. Most of my married girlfriends just took their husbands's last names. I chose to take my husband's last name as well, but also kept my maiden name. But that made for a very long signature every time I had to sign paperwork, which I do a lot at work! And no one likes to think that a marriage won't work, but I learned the hard way that's what happens sometimes. If that happens and you want your maiden name back, it's a lot of work to adjust everything. Not that I think the decision should be based on that, because marriage is intended to be forever even if that's not always what happens. I know couples who took each other's last name too, and hyphenated, and couples who just both kept their own last names. I think if I got married again I would want to do one of these options, because my maiden name means a lot to me.
• India
27 Feb 07
Its all about culture and there is no hard and fast rule. If one does not want to change, its up to him or her. But if you see it from other side of the mirror, it sounds good when you call someone say, Mr and Mrs Iyer...