My son with ADHD
By jamie11982
@jamie11982 (1658)
United States
February 27, 2007 7:04am CST
Recently i started a topic with my son being scared to go to the upstairs to bathroom by himself and i want to thank everyone that replied to the topic it was very helpful. Now to fill everyone else in on my son he's 6 years old and out of control. I've had a lot of anger control problems with him anyways but nothing that happened this past weekend. I've had a lot of problems with him attacking his brother and his grandparents as well as myself. I've been trying for about 4 years now to get the docotor to take a look at the anger issues and i was told that he was not old enough for it. I took him to the bowling alley with me and there he decided to lash out on a friend of ours. He's good friends with her twin girls which are the same age as him. He scratched her arm all up and then tried to hit her with one of the chairs there. I was very imbarissed by this and told him that he is never going again. I talked to his doctor yesterday and now my six year old has to start medications. It makes me feel like a very mean mother because i'm going to be putting him on medications to try to control all of this. It's not just the anger control that he has a problem with. He don't want to listen most of the time and when it come to simple things like getting dressed for school he takes forever because i can't get him to stay on task. He gets in trouble at school and the teacher will not tell me what he does anymore and will not even tell me if he was bad. She thinks that he just wants the attention and that i will punish him at home as well and she thinks this is what he wants. I know when he has a bad day because he will lash out at myself. Some times i have to pin him to the floor until he is finished throwing his tantum. For those who do not know adhd is Attention Defisit Hyper Disorder. Please all parents or grandparents or syblins that have had this problem let me know. I hope that this will get better once he's on the medication. I know that i'm not the only parent out there that has this problem and would like to share more of what i'm going through so if you are going through this as well let me know please.
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@sherry_navilla (420)
• Slovak Republic
28 Feb 07
i think you shouldn't really rely on medicines.. the body after all has its own way of getting used to thema and you would increase the dosage sooner or later and might reort to other side effects...
i am a psychology major and we have addressed several problems like this one.. there is what you call reality therapy.. wherein you make them feel how they did to others and explain them why it is not good... there was this one time wherein a boy scratched a classmate although the teacher did not scratch the boy he make him feel hurt by pressing down his shoulder and ask him does that hurt? and when the boy with the aDHD says yes.. the teacher said... and that's precisely how your classmate have felt so you must not do that again ok... that's one option..
and please do not allow him to take chocolates or caffeinated drinks for it might make him more hyperactive and uncontrollable. in dressing him up for school just be patient and let him know why it is important.. for them sometimes they feel different when you scold them and their very sensitive so you might as well not change the tone of your voice when your with them.
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@jamie11982 (1658)
• United States
28 Feb 07
Thank you with your sugestions. I've already tried this with him. He has 2 younger brother's and a younger sister. He will not touch the younger sister or his 4 month old brother in anger but he takes everything out on either the closet adult or his 5 year old brother. And i've had to pin him to the floor to get him to relax a couple of times.
@dreamingmyth (594)
• United States
27 Feb 07
i have ADD myself and have never been on any meds for it. what works great for me and my son (who also has ADD) is a simple diet.. perhaps you may want to try it before u resort to meds, as the meds are not god for him (id only try the meds as a last resort). anyways first thing in the morning should not have sugar unless its natural sugar from like fruit or the like. then keep him away from any foods with red or blue dyes. and at night before bed the last thing he should eat should have protein in it. this right here should help his attention span big time! since he is ADHD and not just ADD id also try to cut as much sugar as possible out of his diet, as well as caffine. if his anger is coming from the ADHD (which it very well could be) this should help ALOT! best of luck to you and your little fellow!
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@jamie11982 (1658)
• United States
28 Feb 07
Thank you so much now the thing is he's always hungry and i don't let him have any soda. I don't want their teeth to go bad so there for i don't let him have any of that and i'm very careful with the candy as well. I have four children so it's really hard to be on the watchful side while racing through the house and he goes to the babysitter's as well. I work a full time 40 hours a week job. but i'll try more on watching what he eats.
@zac101 (20)
• United States
12 Jun 07
I know how he feels and all that, I have ADHD as well. I was picked on about having it, but I read in some articles that a lot of the singers and actors and famous house designers have ADHD, so if he's picked on or wishes that he didn't have it, then tell him about the actors, singers, and designers. Ty Pennington has ADHD, that's the only one that popped up in my head at the moment, but there are a lot more people who are famous.
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