adoption, would you consider it eventhough you were single?
By simplycza
@simplycza (1480)
Philippines
16 responses
@simplycza (1480)
• Philippines
4 Mar 07
i will make sure then that i am ready for the responsibilities.
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@heartmomjules (17)
• United States
27 Feb 07
Yes, I would absolutely consider adoption if I were single and had the time and resources to provide for a child. I have two kids, both adopted, so I know how wonderful adoption can be. In terms of being approved, most agencies will absolutely approve a single parent and foster agenicies are espeically open to that. We adopted both of our kids from social services, fostering first, and we got them as infants (under 6 months) and healthy and intelligent as all get out. It is definitely possible to adopt healthy, unharmed kids from social services and one benefit, especially for a single parent, is that there is a foster stipend and in the state of CA, at least, adoption assistance given each month until the child is 18. Plus there are no adoption fees whatsoever.
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@simplycza (1480)
• Philippines
4 Mar 07
i would like to adopt but right now i was scouting for ideas and you guys helped me alot. next thing is, where to go to find a baby, i hardly know orphanage here in Philippines and actually i want a baby or an infant.
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@sylvrrain (659)
• United States
27 Feb 07
Yes, I would consider it. I do not think the adoption agencies would approve of a single parent, but if they would, it would be something high on my list.
Being a parent is one of the greatest joys in life. I feel blessed that I had two children of my own.
@simplycza (1480)
• Philippines
27 Feb 07
evryone deserves a family. and the children without parents needs love too that is why i wanted to consider. glad you have your own child.
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@kaplya (1578)
• India
4 Mar 07
i find the idea of adopting much worthy than the idea of having one's own child and that's why i want to adopt at least a child if i would ever be able to do that! being single makes the raising child somewhat difficult but at least u don't need ur partner's consonent before adopting, in that situation!it's no problem if i m single but have full capacities to adopt a child!! there r so many orphans in the world at present that now everyone should start thinking of adoptation more than having his own children.
@simplycza (1480)
• Philippines
4 Mar 07
u have a point there. but of course it is an unexplainable feeling if the child you are taking care is your own. and since my heart was sad for this orphans and parentless children, it triggers me to adopt one.
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@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
27 Feb 07
I would not recommend it - I have been a single mother for 15 years and it is very very hard. I think children need 2 parents. I suppose if it were a situation like no one else wanted the child because of handicaps or something like that I would concider it but it would be even harder at my age.
@simplycza (1480)
• Philippines
4 Mar 07
Hi faith, i understand your point. but since a lot of children grows now without any parent, it is still better if they have one.
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@simplycza (1480)
• Philippines
4 Mar 07
hello shebee, thanks! i have a good intention, to help and to share love. Though i know that in return having a baby will also helped me out.
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@AngelNicki (412)
• United States
2 Mar 07
I am planning to adopt, or foster parent, as soon as I get a normal place to live and get my life situated. Yes, I am single. I actually want to make sure I adopt while I'm still single so that I can be sure, any man who loves me will have to love my children. I could live without ever getting married but I doubt I could live without being a mother... its just one of my top priorities in life!
To read a blog by a superb single adoptive mother, check out http://www.baggageandbug.com (It's not my blog... its one I discovered that I read every day!)
http://www.blogcharm.com/4kids
@simplycza (1480)
• Philippines
4 Mar 07
hi there! you are a great person. you put it on top of your priority. thanks for the links.
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@Bunny2 (2102)
• Australia
7 Mar 07
Yes, I know it's preferable to have two parents but in this day of single mums and dads for various reasons, it's not unthinkable to adopt a child even though you don't have a partner. If you desperately want to have a child of your own and are anuable to - especially if you have no partner, than it makes sense to adopt and give a child a better life. There are no guarantess that when a couple adopt that thehy will be both around for a long time.
@koerporation (367)
• Indonesia
7 Mar 07
i kinda think of it but i know that raising a child is not an easy task, especially for a man like me. icant even take care of myself ^^ but yes sometimes i think if i cant find a girl to be married maybe i would think of an adoption
@crazynurse (7482)
• United States
6 Mar 07
Sure I would. If I wanted to be a parent and had given serious thought to the 24-hour per day responsibility that parenting brings,and felt that I could handle it, I would certainly attempt adoption. I would think through the financial aspect, being sure that I could provide adequate food, shelter, clothing, medical/dental care and simple amenities. If the answer was yes to all of these, the last thing that would bother me would be that I was single!
@dubaimt (273)
• United Arab Emirates
28 Feb 07
yes. if i am financially capable of and emotionally and mentally sound, why not? i would love to share whatever blessings i have, if i am not that lucky in relationships, then at least i can live my life sharing my blessings with my adopted kids.
@simplycza (1480)
• Philippines
4 Mar 07
thank you! we have the same thinking :)
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@whimsystoryteller (1743)
• United States
6 Mar 07
If you can handle it financially and emotionally, go for it. There are so many children out there who need homes. Both here in the U.S. and elsewhere. There are thousands of children in Russia who are out on the street. What's really horrible about that is that the winters in Russia are brutal and these children are out trying to survive in them with little clothing and sometimes no shoes. I'm sure they find some shelter or they wouldn't still be alive but they really need homes.
Even if you decide to adopt in the U.S., there are so many kids who need homes. You do need to be aware that many kids in orphanages in the U.S. have been victims of abuse and that is a different set of problems so you need to work with someone to train you in dealing with children who have been through that.
Be careful who you deal with, though. There are a lot of unsavory characters out there in the adoption field. Make sure you deal with a legitimate attorney or government officials. Private adoption can often work out well if you want to adopt a baby but make sure that the attorney is above board.
Just make sure you do a lot of checking and research. Also, be prepared for a battery of social service checks on you and your home. If you go through adopting from an orphanage, you will be heavily scrutinized so be prepared for it.
I hope that helps.
@lonarari (46)
• United States
7 Mar 07
I would. I am married, have one adopted daughter and hoping for another. The problem is the money aspect. I don't know how I'd afford an adoption single, but I'd make it happen somehow if I wanted it. I have a group of fundraising moms and I've seen singles adopt. I can't say enough good about it!
@cripfemme (7698)
• United States
6 Mar 07
Yes, I would if my finances would more stable. Although I believe it is ideal to have two parents. It is certainly not required.
@iresha_kas (113)
• Sri Lanka
4 Mar 07
Adoption is a very good option for those of who are unable to have children on their own. I think its a very good idea as the little one could also have a true family who wants it and would be loved all through. I think adoption is great.
Well in our country the single parent concept is not very popular and we have a lot of restricktions for adoption as well. Anyway I think it would be really nice for that little one to have both parents other than one parent.