Dating after being married 3 times

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If you have been married 3 times in 25 years and had been hurt by all 3 ex'es, would you not be skepticle about someone getting serious with you? I have been seeing this lady. She is very sweet and when we first started talking on the internet, I told her that I was not looking to get married again for quite some time. We talked (via) internet for 6 months before we met and have been dating now for about 7 or 8 months. I really think the world of her, but she keeps bringing up marriage in a round about way. She will say "If and when we were to get married, and that's not to say that we will", and then continue with her discusion whatever it may have been. It drives me nuts. I am not getting married for at least 10 years or maybe more. My last 2 marriages which spanned over 20 years took everything I had financially to keep together and everything that I wanted got pushed to the back burner and now that I am single again, I am going to put my life completely back together before I even consider mariage again. My first mariage which lasted about 3 1/2 years gave me a wonderful son who is now 25, married, and has a child of his own on the way. I went through 17 years of child support. My second wife resented the fact that I had to pay it and threw it in my face all the time. She even went as far as to try to alienate my child from me so that I couldn't spent time with him and his stepbrother. That mariage lasted 11 years and then she was running around on me the last 3 or 4. My third marriage lasted 9 years and I still love for her a great deal. I miss her on a daily bases. I rarely hear from her anymore. An occational email. The problem here was her daughter and grandaughter. The daughter got pregnate out of wedlock and then after us supporting her, and finally going to work, would leave the grandchild with my wife and go to work, and upon returning home and then having 2 days off, would take off and spaend her time off with some guy she was seeing. again leaving my wife to care for the child. Even when she was at home, she whine and complain that she was tired and make my wife care for the baby. If I complained that she was letting her daughter run over her, I got blessed out for sticking my nose in it. Also, her daughter wasn't paying for her part of the house upkeep. When I would tell her she needed to pay us more, she would tell me, well I need to save "my" money so I can move out after she told us that she would help us with the bill in this new house. (rental) I bought her a car. I repaired it several times. When my wife and I broke up, I bought her a 98 Monte Carlo, so she would have something to drive and I kept my car. We had one that we ended up letting go back to the finance company, because neither one of us could afford to keep it on a single income. I still talk to my first and third wives, but my second could drop dead tomorrow and I'd never shed a tear. LOL I know that sounds harsh, but it's the way I feel. Well, getting back to the first part of this before I started rambling. Knowing what you know about what I have bee through, how would you approach this person and tell her that she needs to stop talking about marriage and trying to pressure me, because I'm not getting married? Help. I don't want to hurt her feelings, because she has had it rough too.