This would be soooo hard...

Can't I keep both of them, lol. I think it would be very hard to decide unless you instantly knew. It would be difficult to forgive the long time of memery loss that had spearated you. Let's hope none of us ever have to make that kind of decission, good question!

hhehehe yeah same as what we watch in the movies like pearl harbor and castaway.. well for me its not just hard.. its VERY VERY hard... and sad. legally you can't do anything.. because it will sacrifice your new family.. The other party should do is to understand.. just like in the movies.. they just let go.. and im sure there will be a new place for the person.

That would not be too hard. They had left you for so long without any contact with you and I would be so mad at them that I would stay with my new husband.

Yes it would be very difficult. But I would like to know where this Person had been all this time and why I was not contacted. But I also believe that I would stay with the new Person, as 1. I would have changed 2. Again why was I not contacted. 3. You can never go back only forward and that much time would have elapsed it would never be the same. This is just my Theory, I could be wrong. I really do not know.

oh my god what a question,i'm gonna think about it,i'll reply you later...

It sounds to me like you're planning to write a novel and you are soliciting for ideas. However, this is an unbelievable situation and before commenting I would need to know more details.

first of all. i have friend who happen to be in that situtation. her husband was in kuwait when the war happened, and a report said that his husband have been killed. she cried a lot,and after 7 years she got married again. it seems all thing went well with them..all in a while his first husband appeared,after 10 yrs. he was blind and crippled.he is alive. but he never want his wife back because she is happy with her present family. he just want to tell that he is alive, and wasn't able to come back because he became blind and bedridden for almost 9 years...

I think after mourning his loss and moving on to find some one new and marry I would have to obviously have to love the one i'm currently with to have re-married. I think I would stay with my current husband and move on hopefully happily ever after. If it was meant to be, it was meant to be.

It would be the most dramatic situation to handle.A sure pure dilemma.The heartache of thinking you have lost your soulmate,then coping up with life,finding someone ,getting married and then to have the lost one back.Omg.The wierdest,cruelest joke that life could play. It would depend upon the people in question as to how they would react and what decision they arrive upon. If faced with such a situation,i will stick with the person I love more at present.As for the person coming back in my life,i think with great difficulty i have come to terms with life with out him.And to go through another such heartache for the second person would really kill me.So,i would continue with the second one and still have good terms with the previous one as a friend.

It sounds like a hollywood movie to me. I really doubt this will ever happen TO me or to anyone I know, but it has happened in the movies.

I wonder what kind of explanation the first husband/wife would have to dissappear and not contact you? But if the reason would be legitimate I would rather be with my first love than the new love!!

for me, definitely i will choose to current one..of cz maybe he or she had his own reason to leave u b4 dat, but its better to continue wif d 1 u really love.

Oh man, someone would sure have some explaining to do. Imagine the years of heartache, of letting go, of denial, of anger, of bartering and finally acceptance. Just to have it all be a lie. I suppose it could be a blessing. Sounds like the setup in the movie CASTAWAY with Tom Hanks, about a fedex delivery guy who gets stranded on a deserted island for many years before he's rescued. When he returns to the life he knew, everything's changed.

Believe it or not, but this actually happened for real in India. This story was very much publicized and appeared in the news a lot. Here is the link to the full story. http://www.rediff.com/news/2004/sep/23spec.htm

I think that it would depend on the circumstances. If it was done to by him to get out of the marriage or some thing selfish of that nature no I would not, but if it where due to a accident or the FBI I think that it would depend if I got over him or not. I mean if you went on with your life and started a new one with a new husband and you loved this husband 2 I would stay. If I were not happy with him or still carried a flame for the first one that out shines the 2nd I would go for number1. See how confusing this would be???? Oh Mmy goodnes.

This would be a hard one, but I think that if it took them years to call they had better have a good explaination for why. I would have to stay with the relationship I was in already, and just try to build a friendship with the old one, and if he would not have that, then I would have to say so long pal. Thanks for never calling... lmfao

I would drop down and... I don't know what would I do. Memories, good and bad, would begin to flash back from the past and it would be confusing. When and if I'd get out of it, the real question would be, do I accept the fact that my wife is alive or to ignore it and go on with my life. It all depends on the situation why she'd die and how many years ago, and what kind of relationship do I have now.

if i heard such a horrible thing i think i would die too...

It would depend on alot of things.They would have to be held captive somewhere which could explain why they didn't reach me.Were they the love of my life and is my relationship now so so,if I still love him I would make my decision instantly if I don't go back I will think about it everyday,it would kill my spirit.People stay in bad relationships all the time and than someone comes along and opens their eyes and you look in the other direction. But if things are great in your present relationship and your in love but you still love the other person returning that would make it extremely difficult.I don't know what I would do if this was the scenario.I guess everything would be weighed.