My Baby Doesn't Seem to Like Her Dad

United States
February 27, 2007 2:25pm CST
My husband is trying to be an active parent, but every time he picks her up she cries for me and wont stop until I take her. She's 6 months old. She spends her whole day with me, but when Josh comes home, he tries to spend time with her but she just won't have. Is this normal behavior?
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@cherhost (1072)
• United States
2 Mar 07
I think that there are a ton of people who say it is normal here. But I agree with them. My little one never wants anything to do with her dad half the time. I am with her all the time. But here is one thing that worked a little with us when she was younger. Have him in charge of a feeding...he did the night feeding while I picked up a job at night. It worked for a while but then being in the military you know what happened next. SO needless to say she is still up my butt. Oh and have him sit on the couch next to you so she can see you. Remember she was in your belly and your voice it the one that relaxes her the most. Good luck dear!
@elx122 (3)
• United States
27 Feb 07
Yeah, I think this is normal... especially since children are extremely attached to their mother in the early stages of life... and even more so since you spend the whole day with her- she definitely see you as her guardian and may not really identify with your husband. Gradually, children get out of it and later on they will have a period where there is not even stranger anxieties, where they are comfortable being with a complete stranger. Don't worry. :)
@kparab (301)
• United States
27 Feb 07
probably the first few times he picked her up she might not have been comfortable and so shes still reacts that way. it doesn't happen with first time father as they are bit to firm to hold for a soft kid. ask u hushand just to play with her give her things she likes or want and don't try to rush into holding the baby and also ask me to be regular i.e. everyday otherwise the baby thinks it one day think and so might be busy with herself.
@imadriscoll (2228)
• United States
27 Feb 07
This is normal behavior. I have three children, ages 3 1/2, 2, and 14 months. They all went through times when they didn't want anyone except me. It's very discouraging for daddy! But, the two oldest each went through times when they would ask me all day when daddy was coming home, would fall down and want to call daddy at work and would go from being completely grumpy to the world's greatest kids when daddy walked in the door. It's kind of discouraging when these times happen for me! I think they do it to prepare us for when they're teenagers and they won't like us then either! We just have to keep in mind that they'll eventually make it out of that stage and remember how much they love us again! :O)
• United States
27 Feb 07
Yes it is normal because the baby is spend all her time with you. Its a big adjustment for the baby. They fater needs to try to spend more time with the baby.