would you blame a wife if she's cheating with her husband?
By heartwick
@heartwick (26)
Philippines
February 27, 2007 3:15pm CST
when a wife never get the love that she wanted from his husband,and she's always being ignored by his hubby...as the human needs aren't being met,and suddenly there''ll be someone who can fill her needs,love her and he pays attention with her...till she fell in love with the guy,would you blame the wife to have an affair?
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@xtedaxcvg (3189)
• Philippines
27 Feb 07
However you put it it's still the wife's fault. Even though the husband ignores her wife he still is with her and he still manages to restrain himself from having an affair with somebody else. The husband is not cheating and he's not commiting any grave mistake so that makes the wife guilty.
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@heartwick (26)
• Philippines
27 Feb 07
yes,she maybe...guilty but it's the husband responsibility to make her wife feeling secured and loved by him right?fr me, what's the point of having a husband without showing any affections?life is too short to suffer. :-)
@cybergwen (158)
• United States
27 Feb 07
I think that it is her fault, of course. But if her needs aren't being met, she is unhappy or whatever she needs to address the issue at home before bringing someone else into the picture.
I have been the "other" woman for over a year and a half now and there were times that it was very hard on me not just him. It has worked out in my favor, however. We now live together and they have filed for divorce.
Still if I had it to do over again, I would think twice.
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@heartwick (26)
• Philippines
27 Feb 07
how did you cope up with it?have you experienced depression or otherwise frustrations with your relationship with him? being a second wife isn't a joke right?as far as i know,my friend was too a "other woman" but she suffers a lot from the relationship...she was very unhappy and she cries to me most of the times.
@cybergwen (158)
• United States
28 Feb 07
I can't really explain how I coped with it. I just knew in my heart that we made eachother really happy and that if it was meant to be, it would happen.
I also never fooled myself by saying that he was going to leave or anything like that. I just "rolled with it" and when the time came that he said that he was going to leave, I supported his decision.
I never placed any demands on him or had any expectations. When I saw him or talked to him, I did. When I couldn't I had my own stuff going on. I was also completely open to going out with other people, I just never met anyone that measured up to what we had.
Also, their marriage was so bad that we pretty much were together for atleast an hour every day. So there were never any long spells apart. Another thing that helped was that I didn't jump into bed with him for a long time, that helped me keep my distance a little emotionally.
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@heartwick (26)
• Philippines
28 Feb 07
i hope we can chat soon at my yahoo....hmm,how are you now?are you living together?
are you happy?i hope you are.
@Myrrdin (3599)
• Canada
27 Feb 07
Yes it is still the wife's fault. If she was not having her needs met she should communicate that fact with him. If she still is not having her needs met they need councelling. If she still is not having her needs met she should leave him. Cheating is a choice, and someone who chooses to have an affair is in the wrong, the reasons don't matter.
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@alanna_liadon (189)
• United States
28 Feb 07
It is not entirely the wife's fault, obviously there are problems with the relationship if she feels that way and that is the responsibility of both husband and wife to keep healthy. However, it is her who has made the decision to break her wedding vows, so yes I would blame her for that. Vows are made for a reason. She should either try to fix things with her husband or leave him so he can find a woman who keeps her promises and won't cheat on him.
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