so confuse!!!
By joodzki6
@joodzki6 (596)
Philippines
February 27, 2007 8:12pm CST
I have a boyfriend for 2 months now..with that span of time being together..he showed me his sincerity. But right now he is undergoing a case for the custody of his children..well, he's separated for 3 yrs. His ex-wife is trying to find evidences of him that he won't be able to win and get the children..and one of the evidence that he's wife showing is our affair..i don't understand why she have to make it as evidence..i don't think its logical because they are not fighting for separation but child's custody...i'm really confused of the situation. well, the reason why i'm confuse is because i love this man so much and i can't afford to lose him at the moment...but i want him to win the case because i know how much he want to be with his children...i'm thinking of like getting away with him for a moment until the case is finish so, he could focus more on the case...and also, i don't want to be the reason of his failure in this case...what do you think is the best way to do? do you think what i'm thinking is right?...i'm really confuse!! enlighten me, guys? thank you.
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4 responses
@cherrysant (199)
• Indonesia
28 Feb 07
did he divorce ?? if he met you when he didn't divorce, of course her wife will think it a affair, but if you met him when they was divorced, it's not affair...
however, he's already married with her ex-wife, n live together for a moment, so...behind them, I think they have a closed problem
for you, I offer you to don't immediate him for a moment. let him finishing his old problem, and after that...all of injunction, be in your hand...
@joodzki6 (596)
• Philippines
28 Feb 07
when i met him...i don't really know that he's married and has 3 children. but he told me everything just before i answered him and they were separated already but not legally. he also told me about the case...and still i've decided to continue the affair because i love him and i know he loves me more.
yeah, maybe you are right...i should let him settled everything...and come what may. oh, that hurt me..but i'll do this for his sake not mine...because i really love him so much.
@joodzki6 (596)
• Philippines
28 Feb 07
i really want to be with him all the time...and support him all the way. but i don't want to be additional burden on him...because our affair is becoming a problem now because of his ex-wife...fyi, they are not legally separated..that's why i'm really confuse.
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
11 Apr 07
The best thing that I can advise you on this is that you sit down with him and talk to him about it and see what he wants. I used to take actions for the best on my own but it is not always what the other Person wants
So sit with him and talk it over
I know this was a month ago and I do hope that things have sorted and that you did not take any drastic actions
@Michele21 (3093)
• United States
28 Feb 07
I would stay away until everything is finalized. I don't know how much it will work against him because of your affair, but if it was my husband I would sure use it. I think it is a sad situation, you got involved with a married man, to me that is just wrong. I don't want to say anything bad about you but if it were my husband I would definitely not like you or my ex for the betrayal. Just stay away until everything clears up and them get back with him.
@joodzki6 (596)
• Philippines
28 Feb 07
it's okay...i understand. you are right, i should get out of this affair until it's all settled. i just don't know if he will understand me with the decision i'm going to make...because he really doesn't want me to go. he said he'll do everything...and it's ok that he lose the case as long as he knows that i'm with him...he can afford to lose everything but can't afford to lose me...that's what he said.oh, i'm really still confuse!
