Have you come across this sort?
@joey_matthews (8354)
February 27, 2007 8:18pm CST
Hey,
I haven't been on here as much as I'd like. Although sooner enough I'll catch up with my responses and friends.
Yesterday I noticed a message on site from my wife old friend. She has issues with me because I didn't like things which she said and now continues to be a cyber stalker after at least 2 years.
I can honestly say, this is one of those things I've handled badly in the past but now I'm more interested in my life. Although her messages of treats and lies are somewhat getting on my nervous. As she's a very cruel person, who says things without thinking and continues to believe she's happier than everyone else. (which I doubt she is)
Leaves me wondering, Have you come across this sort?
Thanks, ~Joey
P.s My guess is we've all come across people who's behaviour is similar. If it wasn't pointless and got the point we're I wanted this sorting I would involve the police, although I'm not interested wasting their time with her idle treats.
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15 responses
@villageanne (8553)
• United States
28 Feb 07
Wow! That would be terrible to have a cyber stalker. It would hard to know how to handle that. Luckily, I have never had to deal with that. I am not sure I would know how to deal with it. Good luck.
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@joey_matthews (8354)
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1 Mar 07
I've had worse thing's to deal with.
A cyber stalker isn't all that bad when I think about it. What she says actually makes me me laugh, I spent the whole day thinking about this and I'm just going to remain happy and laugh.
She's quite funny.
~Joey
Thanks!
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
28 Feb 07
All articles written about cyber stalkers seem to point in the direction of ignoring the person. When you argue you give them fuel for another attack. I really do not know what else to tell you to make this situation go away.
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@mnflower (1299)
• United States
28 Feb 07
every place that you chat or get email messages from have a block user area that you can use to block her from following you or contacting you in anyway.I too had an old boyfriend that seemed to follow me everywhere on the internet I just politely started blocking him from all my places that I visited and even blocked him and his ip number from sending any messages to my email addresses. This has helped me and he finally gave up the fight, he even changed name several times but the ignoring him did the best when I didn't comment and reply to him that took the fun out of it..And if she is stating she is happier than ever well she must not be if she is going to continue these childish acts seems like she is in great need of someone to pay attention to her...sorry you having this problem...hope you can check into a way of stopping this.
@sigma77 (5383)
• United States
1 Mar 07
I think you should ignore her as best you can. If you have no connection to her, then pay her no mind. Stay focused on your life now and don't be worrying about her. There is probably no need for the police, unless she gets violent or interferes in you life in some physical manner. Rest easy, and enjoy the new life you are creating for yourself.
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@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
28 Feb 07
Pretty sure this has never happened to me. Pretty sure no-one ever cared a hoot...lol
That said, do you know why she's doing this...exactly what did you habndle badly. I remember my dad telling me that the way to respond to someone being abusive or whinging or rude is to kill em with kindness. It really works and takes the wind right out of their sails.
If this is a small issue for you...don't sweat it. If it's really getting on your nerves then you need to figure out a way of dealing with it. Perhaps go to the police for advice first.
@joey_matthews (8354)
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1 Mar 07
I won't go into the whole story.
Although she said some very cruel thing, at a point we're I was very emotionally damaged before she even said anything. She asked for what she got, which I feel bad about. Although when you "attack someone" and get all verbal a saint won't remain a saint. (words come back at you)
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@cassidy22 (2974)
• United States
28 Feb 07
yeah, I have encountered this. Here is how you handle it:
Document EVERYTHING that comes from them - emails, web posts, voicemails, letters... keep everything
DO NOT RESPOND TO ANYTHING. Responding just gives them encouragement to bug you moe, They are looking to get you riled up, if you dont respond, then they have nothing to feed on.
Block their email address, ignore their posts, wipe them off your messenget lists, change your phone number if you have to.
IF it persists and gets bad, then do involve the police. Sometimes the threat of police is enough to stop them, but documenting everything will help in your case to get the cops involved if you need to.
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@joey_matthews (8354)
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1 Mar 07
Hey cassidy,
Thanks.
I've got a lot of things which my wife and I have collect other the years of putting up with her screwy old friend.
Her e-mails are blocked.
Although she does sign up to new ones sometimes, although the last time she did this was awhile back.
Again thanks for the response.
~Joey
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@crickethear (1417)
• United States
28 Feb 07
You should be able to come in here with peace, and not be hounded. I would report her and not let her get by it. You should have the freedom to come and go, and not being looking over your shoulder.
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@charms88 (7538)
• Philippines
28 Feb 07
I'm not very clear about what you posted here. But correct me if I'm wrong, ok. From what I can decipher, you knew this person personally and you knew that she's spreading something unpleasant around the site. If that's the case, I will still advise you to go on and report this thing. We don't want more innocent people to be stalked by this person. All of us have mistakes, past one, present and certainly in the future. We learned by all our mistakes and try to change those mistakes into a better one. Some people can be really pretentious and creating a fantasy out of their life. I'm not a very good judgement of character but I'm sure this kind of people are just around the corner.
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@retardedrugrat (4791)
• Canada
28 Feb 07
I have a friend who's been going through something like this. Her ex partner keep messaging her in MSN Messenger and threatening her with this that and the other.
I advised her to block him but she refused to. She said she wants to know what he's up to because she feels he's dangerous.
She has a point, but even if she blocked him, he'd up the intensity of his phone calls to her and start swinging by her place too. She said she refuses to put her life on hold because he has issues with her.
If your wife doesn't object, why not delete this woman from her friends list? She's no friend if she's stalking you!
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@prestocaro (1251)
• United States
28 Feb 07
i've had many a cyber stalker. usually they are ex-boyfriends or estranged friends, and they make a nuisance of themselves for a few weeks and then disappear again. i just ignore them -- it is pitiful and obvious that my life has progressed and theirs hasn't.
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@cyclops_online2004 (779)
• India
28 Feb 07
Its absloutely pathetic to have a Cyber stalker. It really gets into your nerves. Well, i haven't experienced anything of this sort and hope i dont even get into somethinglike this. To tackle this just report about the matter to the concerned site authorities.
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@wendy82 (437)
• United States
28 Feb 07
They just want to tear a family or a couple apart. If it keeps up then yeah go to the police. Just as long as it does not get violate then you should be okay. To bad if she had conflict with you and not a big thing. She think her stuff doesnt smell so than she wants to interfere into someone else life.
@babymomie (8)
• United States
1 Mar 07
I haven't had the exact situation, but I have come across something similar on different sites. You have to report them- there is usually a place on a site specificly for this- but I think if it gets too bad- such as threats- and if you fear for the safety of you or your wife, that perhaps it would be wise to consult the police. Sometimes you can also block people if necessary.
@babymomie (8)
• United States
1 Mar 07
I am truly sorry for your loss. It's too bad this woman is bothering at such a difficult time in your life. I do wish you and your wife the best. Just don't let the threats go too far, be sure to seek help or atleast the advice from the police- they can tell you exactly what your rights are and what you can do to get this to stop.
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
13 Mar 07
You are doing well ignoring her as it is not worth it and she will eventually get bored when you do not act. I have a similar experience but not online. And in the end I ignored and the Person I think got the message even though he did write a few E-Mails and when I ignored them to I believe he has given up now. So just keep ignoring her.
