Make Him Pay!

We used to have a radio station that did that when we were in California. Amazing how many guys got caught because they sent to flowers to someone else! I know that they suspect cheating but I think that sending fake STD letters and stuff is wrong. She said that it was a prank (and that there is even a disclaimer at the bottom of the page if they read down that far) and isn't disruptive to their lives. Dr.Phil asked her why she couldn't get on with her life and get past it and she said that she had and that she was helping women who were wronged by men, so they deserved it. About that time she said that she and the ex were back together. He must be 7 kinds of an idiot! Phil also asked why she didn't do it for men, too, and she said that the men were generally in the wrong and that the women wouldn't do this unless he really took advanage of, cheated on and/or hurt her. Phil said and who are these men cheating with? She said other women (crowd started laughing) and he goes BINGO! Women are not always the innocent party but she didn't see it that way. Basically the men are always at fault and the women should get their revenge so they can move on and get past him. Apparently she thinks that you have to vandialize the guy or something to get revenge or you'll never be happy again.

We didn't used to watch him but he had a few stories that were interesting so we record it on the DVR and watch it when we get time. This story appealed to me because I wanted to try to wrap my head around why she would do this and the more she explained the more nuts I thought she was! lol

Techincally she could have been arrested for breaking and entering and probably vandalizm but he didn't press charges and actually took her back after all of the stuff she did! I can't remember all of the things that she did to him. Wash all of his clothes in boiling water so they would shrink, glued his door locks so the keys wouldn't work, broke in and glued his thermostat and so on. I guess he decided not to charge her so, from what she said, the police were never involved. I'd have had the cops out there first thing. I can't believe he let all of that go!

I understand completely, in fact, I have had that exact same thing happen to me (where someone posted inaccurate information on the net and I couldn't get it removed and it was horrible inaccurate) and I remember how it made me feel, but in my instance the pain was so relevent and had been placed upon me for more years than I should have let it, to me it was closure to a bad relationship, I doubt anyone will ever know who he is (my ex that I put on that site) but it sure made me feel better to tell the world, so to speak, on that site.

I imagine it did make you feel better to get it out that way. When I am upset it helps to get it all out in writing (well, typing now). I can throw the writings away or whatever but just getting those feelings out helps so much! When my husband and I got into an arguement I'd go to another room and put everything down on paper. I could say what I meant better in writing than I could in words.

My only thing with this is that what if he did the same thing to you? Say he went to a site like this and posted your picture and a bunch of stuff about you, true or not? It's hard to say what is real and what isn't on the internet anymore. It's been used and abused so much that you have to be careful what you do because someone can turn it around and spread it all over the net and it not be true. Not saying what you posted wasn't true, but I could see my ex making up a bunch of stuff about me and posting it all over just to make me miserable.

lol We thought the same thing! Obviously if you keep haunting the person you aren't over them. I don't know which one was more bonkers. Her for taking him back or him for wanting to have anything to do with her again!

Her behavior is very childish and she will eventually go to jail. Usually behavior like this just continues to escalate.

I guess some people don't learn, though, since he did take her back. I agree with the screws loose! Even if I was thinking about taking someone back, if they did that kind of stuff to me I wouldn't take them back. Imagine what they might do if you broke up with them again?

She said that that was one reason that she did it, to help people get over their anger and to get on with their lives. She said that not all of the people use her suggestions but that they read what she had done, laugh and tell her thanks for making them laugh again. Nuts!!

I'm waiting for someone to do something, get in trouble by the law for it and then have them blame her and her website saying they "made" them do it!

This is true, there are people who would try to use that as a defense.

The bad thing is that someone could post your info and a bunch of bunk about you and there isn't much you can do about it. You might contact the webmaster to get it taken down, but you have to hope they'll do it. My ex cheated on me twice, we got divorced and he had the nerve to tell people that I left HIM for a woman! He thought it was funny. I was no amused. Neither was my husband (boyfriend at the time). His new relationship wasn't working out, and mine was. I think he was hoping to make me miserable again since I had moved on. Didn't happen, but I still wasn't happy with some of the garbage he was saying about me.

Same here! My ex cheated on me, twice. I found out about them at the same time. There are still times when I feel hatred and rage toward him, but I know it bothers him more that I moved on, remarried and had two kids. My life is much better since he got out of it. Oh, and Karma is a wonderful thing. He actually had the nerve to cry to me when the girl he left me for (and married) cheated on HIM! What goes around comes around!

If they are married then it is technically breaking the law. It's adultry. It isn't enforced very often, but it could be. Breaking into someone's house is also breaking the law, even if you think they deserve it.

I thought about doing a lot of things to my ex but never acted on them. I think it bothered him more when I walked away and moved on with my life almost like he wasn't a part of it.

I felt the same way. I couldn't believe that she didn't see anything wrong with what she was doing and thought it was normal! Crazy!!

Not all of his shows are this way. He has had some good ones on lately, like the one about the grandfather that sexually molested his granddaughter while he and his wife were supposed to be watching her. It reminds you that anything can happen to your children and gave you warning signs to watch for and what to do if it happens in your family. This episode was mostly around trying to figure out why she was doing this kind of thing and why he would take her back after she did them. Dr. Phil was trying to tell her she needed to move and and get over him and she kept saying she was over him, but then she talked about what she did to him next. She never did see that she had a problem. Since he took her back, he obviously has issues, too.

ROFL I hadn't heard that saying, but I have to admit that I like it! I also don't have the guts to do any of the stuff she says to do. I know that if someone is going to get in trouble with the law or get caught, it's going to be me. If it weren't for bad luck, I wouldn't have any! :)