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its good that you are giving your money to your parents by giving up your happiness but i dont think that you should feel to the extent that you wont get back those money. Parents sacrifice a lot for their kids so once a while even we should help them and finally you have done it :)

I wish I had seen this discussion yesterday because I needed to vent so I just went and started my own discussion about it but this would have been a good place to let it out. Thank you for thinking of this idea joby! My son had some money stolen from him yesterday out of his wallet while he was in his wrestling practice at school. It was very upsetting and frustrating but I feel better now that I got it out. I wanted to respond to your post though about your paycheck and helping your parents. I think it's great that you are helping them but I have a little different view than most people. If you have the extra money and it's not going to cause you any hardship to loan it to them - then you should, but if you are struggling yourself and your parents aren't being responsible with their own money (i.e. running up a bunch of credit cards) then I do not think you are helping them by giving them your hard earned money every time they come running to you crying about their bills. Instead they need to face the fact that they need to cut back on the credit card spending. My belief is that if you do not have the money in cash to spend on something, then you have no business buying it. Credit cards should be used as an emergency back-up only. But that's just my view. My Mother-In-Law lives in another country from us but she is always writing to my husband and complaining about how they are having a hard time and need money.. she never writes to say anything nice or just ask how we are doing. She always has to ask for money. But back in her hometown she is spending money on dumb things, things she doesn't NEED but WANTS. When she comes to visit or if one of my sister-in-laws from here go to visit, my mother-in-law always sends back little items for us that we do not need or want. So she wants us to send her money and then she uses the money to buy us things we don't need. I do not support this at all and I tell my husband to stop sending his mom money for meaningless things just because she likes to shop and doesn't have the money. If my Father-In-Law says they need money, then I believe them because he never will ask unless it's important. Maybe I was raised differently but my father prepared himself so that he never would be a burden to his children. He saved his money well and has been very good about not wasting his money. He has made it known to his children that if we are ever in a difficult place we can turn to him for support but we never have to worry about him needing our help financially. We help him physically with things but money is never an issue. He has even already purchased where he will be buried so we do not have to worry about that when the time comes. As for your Ice Cream Business, you need to step up and tell your father that while you appreciate his advice, you want to do this on your own and IF you need his help, you will ask him but this is something you need to try to make work YOUR way. Good luck to you and I'm sorry you had such a bad day!

Hi,joby. Every family has its problems. As a member,i have responsible to bear the living. Money? Money! That's the biggest problem. My youngest sister will enter university this September. That needs a large cash. So I must work harder and harder. I love my younger sister. And also because that's my responsibility. But that's ok. Money is not all-purpose, though we need it.

hi ,i'm so fine