advice?

That usually happens when a friend's problem is a love problem. I sometimes get irritated but I do not really get mad at my friend. I just try to understand him/her. I believe that it is really not easy to think logically and do what is right when there are problems that involve the heart. Even people who give good pieces of advice sometimes find it hard to apply their advice to their own situations. So as a friend, all I can do then is be there when my friend needs someone to talk to and a shoulder to cry on.

First of all if the FRIEND actually solicited advice there shouldn't be any judgement by you of the fact that they may have just been SHOPPING, or wanted multiple opinions. Also you need not take it as a personal attack. Another thing to consider, if they didn't actually ASK for advice, is perhaps they just wanted to VENT to someone they knew would at least listen. I'll offer one more thing to consider, and it may sound negative, but it happens. When we are close to someone, and maybe have a circle of friends who are the same people, and are young, especially,(No offense) VERY OFTEN advice might become a weapon in a gossip war, or a solicitation to incite jealousy, etc. etc. etc. especially if it regards things like "BILLY DUMPED ME, what should I do? I THINK he's hanging out with Kelly now; she's your best Buddy, what am I gonna do?" Steven Wolf

This is a definition of unconditional friendship in which those who don't deserve your utmost care and attention have received one. I am quite touched by how you handle your friends, though you get irritated sometimes while looking at them committing the same mistakes - without learning anything from their experience. I hope that your tribe will multiply.

it doesn't concern me when a friend doesn't take my advice. i know i think differently than most people including my friends lol. now when someone deliberately does something stupid repeatedly i do get irritated but i still try to stay there for them knowing they will come to the same results, yet again. i do ask them why they repeated and how they expected the outcome to be different. i love giving advice, it's an honor when it is taken, but it's at least an option when it's not. i like trying to let people see the world just a little bit differently to try to help them make up their own minds on what they will do in the long run