Marriage first?

My boyfriend and i of 3 years plan on moving in togeather in july. I personaly think it is a good idea because you dont really know how the person is until you have stayed togeather. Allot of my family disagree and are all in the old fashion 1930s you cant live with anyone until you have a ring on your finger and stood infront of a preacher. but there is allot of people out there geting a divorce, wouldnt you rather live with the person and get to know them better before having to do paper work after paper work because of this?!

I don't really agree with living with someone before you're married just to "test" it out. I think breaking up and moving out would be a mess! Think of having to look for an apartment and possibily still living with your ex because you haven't found new places yet! However I still thinking living with your bf or gf is okay. I think if you have discussed married and possibly will take that step in the future, and thinking living together will make things good...then go for it. I just think you should really know the person first for a long time before moving in or getting married for that matter.

My husband and I never lived in first before marriage. We took our time to get to know one another and not rush into marriage. But we didn't feel the need to try it out first by living together. I don't think divorce is the result of people not having lived together first before marriage. Look at how things were in the past compared to now. There are more people now living together first before getting married and yet there is also an increase in divorce.

I have always thought you marry first, but I'm on my second marriage. The second one is just as hard and sometimes worse. It takes some people longer to clue in and I guess I'm a little stupid but I definately know now You do not know anyone until you live with them. I would never condemm anyone who lives together first, in fact I would encourage it. It takes at least two years to get to adjust to each others habits. TAKE GOOD CARE !!!

I don't really agree with moving in together just to be sure you're compatible. I feel like if you're with someone long enough and know them well enough that you're considering marrying them, having to have a "trial" marriage or live-in situation seems silly. I mean, just because this person probably has some annoying habits that you won't discover until you live with them, you're going to break up? Or get a divorce? Where's the committment? I personally don't like the idea, although I may end up doing it soon myself due to money/convienence issues, haha.