Did anyone's spouse turn back into a child after marriage?
By nelltx
@nelltx (277)
United States
February 27, 2007 11:50pm CST
No, this isn't a silly question. My hubby & I have been married over 14 years, and last night at bed time I noticed something, when he said he was tired, he got up and went to bed. I told him I would be there in a minute, I wanted to finish watching the news. (It had about 5 minutes left in it) When the news was over I got up, plugged in HIS cell phone, picked up HIS shoes that were in the middle of the floor, put HIS drinking glass in the kitchen sink, went into the bedroom, picked up HIS clothes off the floor & put them in the hamper, reached over and set HIS alarm clock, then went to bed. I am already a mom of 3, but over the years have a inadvertantly become a mom of 4? This entire thing got me to thinking, there is a lot of small things that I do for him that I would make my kids do. (or gripe at them to do - lol) Is it that we have fallen in a rut & he just knows that I am going to take care of these things so he doesn't worry about them? He has never made me feel "taken for granted", and he works hard everyday to support me & the kids, I guess what I am wondering is...is this the normal progression in a marriage, or is he just comfortable enough with us to know he doesn't have to worry about the little things?
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@Married2aMarine (1273)
• United States
28 Feb 07
I guess if it doesn't bother you to go the extra mile and do these little things for him, then don't worry about it. I do the same for my husband too and we've only been married for less than 3 years! hahaha! But if I find that he's slacking off too much, then I do let him know that I need his help to pick up after himself a little bit more. Just because I'm a stay at home mom, doesn't mean that I have to do EVERYTHING. And he's really good about it though and helps me out every time I ask him. I believe that marriage is about giving and taking..and it's not always 50/50. Sometimes, I give more and he takes and sometimes he gives more and I take. In the end, we balance each other out. And I think that's ok. As the saying says..don't sweat the small stuff :)
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