should i stop thinking about happy endings?

I have been in a situation quite similar to yours. I lived with a guy for two years after dating him for a while (we moved in together the year we got out of high school) and even moved to another state with him. Fisrt off, forgiving him for cheating is quite big of you - would he have forgiven you? Secondly, I think that things have gone sour in your relationship (as they did in mine) because it's getting too real. Living with someone takes away the illusion and the mystery - you get to know the person on an extremely intimate level, which can actually pull people apart. My dear, happy endings can and do exist. Keep searching, struggling, and learning. In the mean time, from what you've told me, I think that you need to plan out how you are going to move on. Generally (with rare exception) someone who cheats will resort to that measure again, whether it is out of boredom, frustration, or retalliation. You say that you seem to have little control over the situation, in which you imply that he is the one having most of the problems. It looks to me that he is not ready to settle, and that everything is becoming too much like a marriage for someone who is not ready to commit. This doesn't make him a bad person (though, in my book, the cheating should have turned you away from him)...but that doesn't mean that he's the right person for you, either. You know the situation best - think hard. If you decide to leave, plan a course of action. Find out where you can stay, if you can get your name off of the lease (unless he wants to leave), etc. Look through your finances, make sure that you can survive. Then, talk to him. IF you still want to leave/kick him out, do so (since he doesn't have a job....)...if you want to stay, proceed with caution! good luck!

hey.....jus dont try to complex ur relationship....make it simple.....speak wit him straight away.....ask him if he is interested in this relationship further.....ask him to give a honest reply...if he says no.....jus leave him.... if yes......tell him wat u r missing in tis relationship....n if u cant work out things well...n u r still frustrated wit the relationship..you guys need to part... n love is every where ......u can find ur true love in someone else...... i still believe u have a happy ending ahead......my best wishes........