Query

No. My husband who is the most important thing is my life has taken the time to plan something I'm not going to blow him off. How would you feel if you planned something and got a call about someone elses birthday. Just think it is not often men plan anything.

I would call home and try to get ahold of him and let him know what was going on and get his opinion. Mind you I don't mean that what he says goes. I would also try to arrange a babysitter or have him do it so that we both could go out and the kids could stay home and have fun.

I would politely decline the invite, my husband's plans always have priority on short notice things. Especially if I promised that I would come straight home - a promise should be kept even if it is a little one. If the colleage is a good friend also, I would call my husband and see if he wants to celebrate the birthday too, but if he didn't then I would go home.

Family is my first preference.My partner's plan will be my first preference.I would try to avoid the college invitation.If it is very urgent I will discuss my problem with my partner and will find a way out.My partner can join me in the invitation or we can delay the problem for few hours.Anything you will do so that it doesnot harm our relations.

Family is my first preference.My partner's plan will be my first preference.I would try to avoid the college invitation.If it is very urgent I will discuss my problem with my partner and will find a way out.My partner can join me in the invitation or we can delay the problem for few hours.Anything you will do so that it doesnot harm our relations.

Well I think you should go home because you have already decided that your partner has plnas. And if you don't make it, it will bring problems to both of you. Next time he will do the same to you and more likely you will get upset. So don't do somehting unless you know for sure that you won't be angry whenever you have plans and he aggree to it,he changes his mind at the last minute

I would politely decline and tell the colleague the truth that you and your partner had made plans for the evening. Maybe with that response that colleague would invite your partner along. But unless the colleague invites your partner I would go home and go out with my hubby. I might suggest we make plans for later in the week for lunch or coffee.