Ongoing SHOE placement dispute - what do do?! HELP!

It sounds as if she's running over you and you're letting her do it. You're just contributing to the problem by not making her have to deal with the consequences of her behavior. Tell her just once that anything left on the floor anywhere except in her room will be thrown away. And then do it. If she's late getting somewhere or her shoes are ruined, that's her problem. Ignore her yelling. Stick to it, and she'll get the message. She's an adult, not a little girl. It's time for you to stop getting in the way of her growing up.

Start collectig them, like you would toys. She gets them back when you see she will remember to pick them up.

Is there another spot you can sweep it all to? When we were given out new cat (now a few months old) we were picking it up at our friend's house, and they said "she really likes shoes" - I didn't think anything of it, but when we got home and I set the cat down, I said "welcome to shoe heaven!" Yes, there must be ten to fifteen pairs of shoes in our kitchen inside the back door, between grown son's, grown daughter's and her daughter's, our dear granddaughter.. There's a shelf I put there, so they will put some there, but usuually it's me who puts them there every once in awhile. We're lucky as I am able to sweep them out of the way with my feet.. I have a small table which I put a floor length table cloth on, so I hide them under there, and they are under the chairs too.. and I can even sit in the chairs still, but no one actually sits there very often.. I did tell them "if your dad comes through the kitchen some night and falls over your shoes and throws out his (other) knee (he injured one three or so years ago, unrelated to the shoes) then you guys are going to have to pay the bills around here while he's laid up!" That seemed to get their attention.. And I make it a rule to only say things once, otherwise whatever I say is never heard.. They do seem to do a bit better. I don't mind the shoes under the chairs and table and even in front of the shelf but my duaghter will come in and just step out of her shoes and there they are, right in the middle of the path, so I sweep them under the chair with my foot. But come to think of it I should probably remind her about those bills.. {you wopuld think thoughts of his injuring himself wwould be enough, but no, i have to hit them where it hurts (them). Yes, good ole consquences is the best way. I feed these kids and do lots of free babysitting but I've washed my hands of being responsible for anything else for them.. Guess I can be just as selfish as they can be.. Should I tell ya about my dining room? I'll just tell you how I put huge plants in the center of the clutter on the dining room table and the wooden chest.. they're camouglage for my daughter's clutter.. They're only allowed to clutter certain places..

Pick your battles, if this is the worse thing she does, then she is doing fine. Get a snow shovel, when she leaves stuff lying around, shovel it up and dump it in a trash can. You have warned her, if she sees it and gets it out, then you know she got the point. If she doesn't see the stuff, you can actually toss it or hide it somewhere for a month or 2. If you throw her shoes in the snow and she misses the bus, it is her problem not yours. By driving her to school, you lost all credibility. If she does not take care of her stuff, she does not appreciate it, I am sure she has more then one pair of shoes, let her tough it out.