Too early to become a lady?
By juliefaye
@juliefaye (1214)
Philippines
February 28, 2007 7:52pm CST
I have a 7 year old daughter who acts like she's a lady. She tried my lipstick, blush on, face powder etc. she even ask me when we go out that she will use my new sandal if i won't use it. she even asks me to buy her a bra. gosh! I was 13 years old when i have my first bra (lol). i'm a little worried that children on this generation is in a hurry to become an adult. Does tv and environment really has a great effect on children's mind? I was thinking of limiting her on watching tv and using the internet, am i right? need ur opinion friends...
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7 responses
@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
8 Mar 07
Yes, I think the media is trying to rush our little ones into adulthood, especially the little girls. The Bratz dolls are a good example. They dress very inappropriately, yet people allow their children to play with them. I think it dangerous to allow them so many freedoms at such an early age, because the more they have now, the more they will want later. It's amazing how much the media is targeting them with the clothes, and styles you see in the magazines, MTV and online. I think it would be a great idea to limit her intake of these images and def. monitor them. Good luck!
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@juliefaye (1214)
• Philippines
8 Mar 07
yes you're right! that's exactly what's happening in this generation of young girls. Thanks for responding.
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@meholl (510)
• United States
3 Apr 07
I think as long as she behaves like a lady and she doesn't go over board on the make up she will be fine. Just make sure to instill the manners of a lady into her. And let her know that wearing the make-up and dressing up is for fun, but the manners should be adhered to at all times.
I really don't think TV and internet limitations will do the trick. Only letting her watch appropriate programs and visiting kid freindly sites is the best bet there. I think it is more of how your daughter may observe life and the people she interacts with
@juliefaye (1214)
• Philippines
3 Apr 07
You're right.. thanks for responding, cheers!!!
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@Shaun72 (15959)
• Palatka, Florida
31 Mar 07
my little 4 year old neice tries to be bigger then what she is. I think it is because her step sisters are all older then her and she trys to copy them. I'm not really sure but she does ask alot of questions to be 4 years old and she is picky about how she dresses.
@patrice7 (1191)
• United States
1 Mar 07
hello juliefaye!. i have also observed this with my cousins.. my cousins are aged 8, 6, and 4 and they all are very very vain. by vain i mean that they will never go out of the house without wearing something fancy or something nice. they all talk about this crushes and these cute guys that they like and all that.. when i think about it at that age i was vso occupied with the games that we are gonna be playing, how to hide my assignments from mom and how to get even with that classmate who made me cry yesterday.. kids are affected by their environment and all the technology available.. children has now become more aware and more mature. i think that it is ok as long as the parents of these kids teaches them how to deal with the things that they are going through.
@juliefaye (1214)
• Philippines
1 Mar 07
Thanks patrice, u know i'm a little worried because i want her to concentrate more on studies and not on dangling earrings, fancy bracelets..etc. etc. i have'nt heard her talking about crushes i think she's far from it. i want to enjoy time with her as my baby...
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@edujccz (929)
• Philippines
15 Mar 07
My daughter who is 8 year old, grade one came home from school with a gift from a classmates and the next thing i observed, the boy was calling the house so often, at first i was shocked, what is happenning , what will i do?
So young their age and they know the meaning of falling in love with little kids of their age. Come, valentines day, she was cutting and making valentine cards to this kids.i wish i was only dreaming when she asked me to increase her money to school so she can buy him a gift, im rattled what to say...
@jenishel (2)
• United States
6 Mar 07
I don't think any of that makes a "lady"! A woman, maybe. I think of a "lady" as more genteel and less concerned with looks - more concerned with her inner beauty.
aside from the wording, I do think our babies are bombarded from every front to grow up early and grow up "brittany-like".
For what purpose does any 7yo need to watch tv or surf the net? I mean, REALLY??? we want our children to enjoy their childhood - send them out to play, sit down to play with them. Gear the play towards childish things, silliness or the direction you'd like her to grow up in.
I'm not saying that b/c I have it all down. lol. i have a very prissy 7yo, too! she would be in makeup if we had it around. I have four girls older than she is, so it's not new territory for me. I just work on her heart, character and remind her that pretty isnt pretty when it wears an ugly attitude - inner beauty is way more important than looks.
that has helped my older three to make it through "prissy" 7yo phase without becoming "brittany wannabes". kwim?
@juliefaye (1214)
• Philippines
6 Mar 07
If you'll notice, i put a (?) after the word "lady" not sure if this is a proper word. my 7yo surf the net for music videos because she loves evanessence and their music. she also go to doll making on www.doll.com where she adorn the dolls on diff. dresses and accessories. she's my only girl and the youngest that's why i want her to act like her age and not on what you say "britanny wannabes". Thanks anyway!
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@sehgalskapil (1332)
• India
10 Mar 07
well as u tld....i think she is the elder daughter in ur home...and as much i know the elder one do behave like a lady...its not bcoz tv nd all bt the home environment only..she lives with u so she tries to immitate u only....limiting tv nd internet will not work.just be frank with her...nd try to induldge her with her frends..