would you be a friend of a fat person?

Who is fat? Where are the lines drawn? My weight is, according to my doctor, exactly the proper weight for my build, but I've been accused of being fat. I know people that are underweight who claim to be fat. Where is that line? Okay, enough of that rant. On to the real question here. For mine and my husband's wedding, we invited only our closest friends. We had a very small wedding, and it was held in a friend's house. One of our guest (whom I love dearly) was a man who took up most of the kitchen area of the house. He is a very kind, wonderful, helpful, sweet person, and he also happens to be very large. I would never judge the worth of a person by their size, and I would never be ashamed to be seen in public with this friend.

It is bizarre that the question would even need to be asked.

I think this is so wrong , I AM a fat person and I have friends who are much fatter , I am very fond of my friends and they are very intelligent people , I don't understand why they wouldn't want to be seen with a fat person , does being fat make you less intelligent , I am so sorry if I have gone on a bit , this is the first time I ever have in any post , but it has quite upset me . I am glad you agree with me xx

I have quite a few friends that are large. I am not embarassed to be seen with them. Being afraid to be seen with a large person makes that person seem awfully shallow. They need to get a grip. They are missing out on some great people. Life is too short.

of course i will be a friend of a fat person as long as they are nice to me, they are good friends to keep and why do we have to be afraid ?? they're still human being fat or thin is not the point i think as long as they are honest and sincere to be our friend, we don't need anything more.. i used to have a friend, she's a pretty girl, popular and being nice to everyone.. i met her on the 1st grade of junior high school but then i soon discovver that she's a back-stabber and i was one of her victim.. damn !! ^^ but that's long long time ago, and i've forgot her good friends are hard to find soon we find one, keep it tight ^^

Physical is not important, but the most important is good heart. Caring each other, loving and tenderness, is more important then thin but have a bad heart, full of hatred, don't have mercy and so on........ :-)

I can't see what the persons weight has to do with being friends with them. I use to be rather heavy and I know what it feels like when noone wants to get to know you because you have a weight problem. People should try looking more to what is on the inside of a person not the outside.

I have a few "fat" friends (who uised to be skinny by the way), and no I am not ashamed to be seen with them - why should I?

Its whats inside a person that counts friends are friends no matter what there size or what there wearing. No i wouldn't be ashamed i'd be ashamed to be seen with your friends who appear to judge people very harshly without knowing them now that is sad.

It's quite funny, knowing that when I'm being friends with people; I hardly or I even don't notice that they are fat or skinny or whatever shape they are in. Only when some one said, he/she is fat, then I had to stop for a while and think. I have never ashamed of my friend, or being seen with my fat/skinny/black/white/red/yellow skin friend of mine.

Of course I would be their friend. Anyone who would hold their weight against them is going to miss out on a lot of great friendships. Some of my best friends are at least somewhat overweight.

oh my. How shallow is that!?!? I normally pick my friends by the type of person they are - not by how much they weigh. I can't believe that someone would actually pick who their friends are based on weight. Like I said at the beginning of this post - I think that's really shallow and it's someone with an attitude like that that I would not be friends with.

I'm glad you pointd out to them how ridiculous that it is to exclude so one based on their size. Its not about whats on the outside its about whats on the inside that count. you need to get some new friends that aren't so small minded, self absorbed, shallow i could go on. you should except someone for who they are whateva their size.

i wouldn't mind be seen with my fat friends just in case. i was skinny before and now consider myself a little overweight but i still have friends bigger than me. fat people can still change, and if don't i will still love 'em.

Good for you for sticking up for fat people, and I hate the word fat myself, overweight is better and yes they are absurb they are also very shallow. There is no problem with having a friend who is overweight. A lot of overweight people have fantastic sense of humours! I love a person to have a sense of humour and anyone can make me laugh, whether they are green, pink or blue they are worth knowing in my eyes. Trouble is people only look at you from the outside and they make assumptions and they don't take the trouble to look at the person from the inside. Same with looks. You are automatically disregarded sometimes by people who see you as plain or ugly looking and fail to see the real you! If you are ashamed of someone, you need to ask yourself why, it's your problem not theirs!

yes. i dont think there is something to discriminate about fat people.

well i think frendship doesnt look anything.and for me...i dont have anyyyyyy problm with a fat person...the person shd be gud....health doesnt matter..

why not? and who defines what is fat? today with the thin models and all the girls with eating problems, many people are very quick in judging. it doesnt make sense to be ashamed to be seen with bigger persons. a friend is a friend, no matter what he looks like. the inner beauty is what counts for me. the outer beauty doesnt last a life long.

I really don't understand this world of people not wanting to be friends with us.. Yes I am overweight.. I get sick and tired of the remarks, snickering, laughs, finger pointing, etc.. I am a human being with feelings just like the thin people are and their feelings. We live in a world of people that thin is in and fat is out.. We will always be outcast no matter what the situition is.. Whether to be friends with an overweight person or not, that is a thin's person problem not mine.. I am who I am and will always be that way. I am loving, honest, caring, overweight person. Whether you are thin or overweight friend, true friends are friends not matter what the issue is.. Have a great day..

i cant see any connection of becoming friends with that fat person. if you are really a true friend and you are sincere of being a "good friend" then looks wont matter at all. you will be good to your friend, boost her self esteem and edvice her to be conscious of her health.. not because u are shy to be with her but for the reason of physical fitness is important to get rid of diseases such us hypertension..if i am in your case, i woudnt feel any shame at all..