Friends can be lovers, but lovers can never be friends?

I think it all depends on the break up.If it is a mutual break up then yes they can still be friends,but if it was hurtful then i think it would be very hard for one to still be friends because of the feelings involved.

i think it depends on how intimate the relationship was, how it ended and whether the exes have new relationship now. for me, i dont want my ex-lover to be my friend. it only brings out memories which are better left forgotten. i also especially do not want my hubby becoming friends with his former girlfriends. they loved each other at one point in their life, who would say it could not be revived? and that goes the same for me. they could be civil to each other and treat one another as acquaintances, but it must not go beyond that.

Wow a very touchy,sensitive topic. Well first & foremost I feel lovers/mates must be friends first. As friendship is the basis of trust & love to begin. I say I would prefer to remain friends as that's where the relationship started was as a FRIEND. If the frriendship wasn't a true friendshiop then neither was the relationship at any point. I'm still friends with a couple of my old old girlfriends. Just my thoughts on this is all. Happy postings from Grandpa Bob. Thanks again for a GREAT discussion.