Adding some spice to marriage
By dfinster
@dfinster (3528)
United States
February 28, 2007 11:08pm CST
My husband and I have a pretty good marriage but hardly ever get to spend any quality time alone. We both work long hours and have a daughter that we love spending time with when we're at home. Money is very tight and I'm trying to save so I can go to college.
Here's my little problem. The 2 of us have never gone on a vacation and just got away to spend some real time with each other. Not even before our daughter was born. I don't care if we don't go away to someplace exotic or expensive. I don't care if we even go out of town, we can't afford to do that stuff anyhow. I just want to spend some quality time with him and would like to surprise him with a little type of getaway even if it's just for a weekend. I don't want to just spend the weekend in some little hotel either. Any ideas of what we could do or where we could go? What was the best vacation you've spent with you partner and why?
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13 responses
@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
2 Mar 07
If money is tight, try making your home into an exotic getaway. Have your daughter spend the weekend with family or friends. Make your bedroom into something from out of a romance novel. Candles, oils, exotic foods and beverages come to mind. Have fun. : )
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@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
4 Mar 07
Sometimes a little bit of money, a little creativeness and an ounce of curiosity can go very far.
@dfinster (3528)
• United States
2 Mar 07
I'll be sure to ask my parents or aunts and uncles if they have some free time to take my daughter for a day or so. I really think the home version of a vacation is the way I'll be going. Not only because of the money, but becuse some of the ideas are so great! Thanks for the ideas Elusive always great to get all the feedback I can!
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@margieanneart (26423)
• United States
1 Mar 07
Okay, what about a camp ground? Very inexpensive. You can pitch a tent, sleep in a sleepbag, have a fire, and enjoy the peacefulness of being alone and in a different environment. Or, at a KOA, your can rent a cabin for around $35.
Or, go for a picnic in the car, by the ocean, unless it is warm enough to go outside.
I dont know where you live. We are warm all year around.
Last idea. If you have no money to go anywhere at all, then change your bedroom when he is at work. Decorate it with a large paper on the wall of scenery of somewhere you wish you could be. Light candles, and meet him at the door covered in nothing or whipped cream. Kinky, but he will love it.
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@krislouiebaby (2346)
• Philippines
2 Mar 07
well if you cannot have a vacation far away from home,at least do cok for him, and have a lunch together,ot dinner.
uality time need not tog et away from home, spend it inside or outside, have a talk while cleaning the backyard, do things together, and i know you will have a nice time doing it with your love one.
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@idrob2006 (317)
• Indonesia
2 Mar 07
To spend quality time together is not have to get out of house right? May be you can send your daughter to her grandparents for the weekend, and you and your husband could do something together in the house. For example doing gardening together, is a healthy thing to do. Or maybe both of you can cook together and have a romantic dinner at home. By doing this you could save a lot of money and get a quality time together. Hope it will helps your problem
@gypsylady28 (945)
• United States
2 Mar 07
This is a problem me and my husband have also. We finally got to go on a little mini vacation the weekend after Valentines day. It was our first vacation with just us and we have been together for 8 years now! We live about 45 min. from Gatlinburg, TN. I got us a nice motel room with a fireplace and jacuzzi. And we pretty much just walked around the town, and just enjoyed having some time alone. Do you have someplace near you that you can go? A city where maybe you could go see a show or something?
@ieatwhatiwant (16)
• Philippines
1 Mar 07
Why not try a picnic at the park, that way you can spend time with your daughter and your husband, you can also relax (because you said you've been working too hard) while bonding with them. And you don't get to spend lots of money. Just bring some food to enjoy.
@ieatwhatiwant (16)
• Philippines
2 Mar 07
Didn't know that you are from the USA. And its winter there right? Why not spend your time in the family room, drink hot choco or coffee, and have a conversation, or watch a movie in the dvd or in the movie channel. Spending time with each other is what's important, quality time. It may be simple but can be treasured forever.
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@patgalca (18391)
• Orangeville, Ontario
1 Mar 07
What about a Bed & Breakfast at a small tourist town? They are inexpensive and there is usually plenty to do nearby. I have never done it myself but would love to. We have a couple of Bed & Breakfast places in our town, but of course I would want to go to another town, like Niagara Falls.
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@zhisheng2005 (301)
• China
1 Mar 07
This is very diffcult to say ,I am not like very much to thevacation ,I only like some people accpmpanying me
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@stefan_diego (556)
• Canada
1 Mar 07
Money is tight in my family too and like you, we both have very tight schedules. My wife just call me one time and asked me to pick her up early, we dine out, not a very fancy place but cozy one and the important thing is GOOD FOOD. We guys don't care about the place anyway as long as they serve the best food. Then watch a movie, we don't even care what's available in cinema we just watch it anyway then go home and watch our little one sleep. Then...sleep in each others arms.
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@retardedrugrat (4791)
• Canada
2 Mar 07
A cozy bed and breakfast in a small touristy spot would be great!
There's usually plenty to do nearby that doesn't cost much, and if you can get close to somewhere that has a beach, you could take romantic walks along the beach at night.
Bed and Breakfasts are usually much cheaper than a Hotel, and the atmosphere and level of service is much more personal.
Ask around family and friends if they can recommend somewhere that's good but inexpensive, and if they can make any suggestions of where to go.
Sometimes you'll be surprised at what places friends have been to and thoroughly enjoyed.
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@juliemarie84 (642)
• United States
1 Mar 07
The best vacation spot I have been with my partner was California. The weather was nice and there's lots to do. We've been to Florida before but it's way too hot and sticky there!
What if instead of you guys going somewhere else on a vacation, what if you have a relative watch your daughter for an evening or a weekend. Then you can have the whole place to yourselves and do whatever you want. I saw that on an episode of Roseanne where they wanted to go someplace romantic, so Roseanne's sister took the kids for the weekend. Just some ideas.
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