Please tell me whether I am wrong!

I really feel for you, sometimes when we help people they take advantage and really turn things round so that we feel like the bad ones, do not allow them to do this to you. You are not bad and have done nothing wrong. My only concern with the electric and water is that there may be little children in the property but maybe a wake up call will solve your problems. I'm sure the companies involved will write to them first You have done your best to help them and they won't even pay their living bills. If the electic and water remain unpaid the companies would switch them off eventually anyway, maybe they though you would pay them. I would be asking for the legal fees and deposit to be paid or face court proceedings. Is there some sort of get out clause that you can use to evict these people from your property? Good luck sorting this out, rembmer what you just told me, be aggressive, please try not to loose sleep over these sort of people.

You have done nothing wrong at all that I can see sheri and in fact have done more than most people would do under the circumstances. Firstly you allowed them to move in before the agreements were signed and you paid out more money that they should rightly have paid, so they are ahead on that score. Then they took time to pay you the balance of the monies that were owing, but you did not get a reprieve on your loan repayments. You cannot afford to carry people like this, particularly where the tenant is not pulling their weight or doing the right thing. Some people are like that of course, and it will test our patience and strength but if they have problems they should talk to you. The fact that they are at least 3 months in arrears on water and power was bad enough but it does sound like they did nothing to redress the situation. Have you had an inspection done of the house to make sure that there has been no damage done. Just make sure that the power and water are not reconnected, or if they are that they are in their name and not yours. You have a family of your own to consider, plus a mortgage to be paid and yet the tenant thinks they have the right to steal from you, because that is effectively what they are doing. Now, when they do leave please do not give them a reference saying they have been good tenants. That would be wrong, and perhaps a sin, because they would use that reference and then steal from someone else. Just make sure that they are out at soon as you can possibly have them out. Then clean the house and let it out to a tenant who will pay, so that you can meet your committments without any added stress. If anyone scolds you for what they have done, then let them pay the money that the tenant owes. I am willing to say that nobody will do that plus surely the electricity is the responsibility of the tenant and not the owner. Okay, it I was in your situation, then I would not have let them move in until they had paid all of the money over or at least some written agreement saying that they had to pay a certain amount of time to pay the balance. If they didn't pay, then I would have evicted them for non-payment or breach of agreement. I would have made sure that the electricity bill and water bills were in their name, not mine. But then again, perhaps I am a little bit tougher than you are Sheri. Also if the bills were in my name, I would have kicked them out as soon as the reneged on them because if they are so far behind in such a short space of time, they will never catch up. Hold your head high Sheri because you are a good person and have done a very good thing, only to have some rather irresponsible people take advantage of your good nature.

If its not against the laws in your area, then I really don't see anything wrong to stopping the electric bill and water bill from continuing on endlessly. Here in the US, if you have renters there are specific laws that can sometimes make it difficult for landlords to even kick the people out. To me, the big mistake in your case was not getting the rent up front before allowing them into your home. Good luck to you.

As a landlord, you have every right to do you think is appropriate. But if the case does not happen always, you can still give them time to pay their due amount. But one buddy said here that f it is of permanent in nature, yes, you are right.

I don't think what you did was wrong. There is no reason for you to foot their bills, but if you would like to, there is no one who can stop you from doing charity. That said, do they have a temporary cash problem? I should think not, since they have come up with the lease money. But if you think they have a temporary problem, you can afford to be charitable. If their problem is of a more permanent nature, then they cannot afford your place, and they should try to move to a place they can truly afford.

no, don't feel bad about it. it's all about responsibility, being responsible to our own actions or their own actions. it's their responsibility to pay their bills, if they have no payment yet, then it's their own responsibility to look for ways on how to pay their bills. it's reasonable enough because you don't need to carry the burden from them. just think if you are doing this for humanitarian reasons. you're just helping them to be responsible and look for ways to pay their bills. they have not even confronted you about it, loss of electricity and water, which means they don't mind it at all or they know about it and they're not doing anything at all. an agreement is an agreement. wait for them to tell you about their bills and from there after hearing their reasons, decide on what to do. ask a lawyer if it's needed for legal reasons.

You cannot be generous in matters where you will be loosing the hardearned money and chances are one day you will be landing in deep financial trouble. Helping people is different and sticking to agreement is different. Unless you are rich enough to bear all the expenses on your own - of theirs too, it is not advisible to be lenient towards the tenants. What you have done is right and tenenats have to come to terms otherwise how will you repay the loan?

I'm confused. Were you selling or renting the house? Either way, the utilities should have been turned on or switched to their name. That is, unless part of the agreement was that you'd pay the utilities which means you are renting and not selling. I don't know what laws Shri Lanka has (is that right?) but in most states in the U.S. a landlord can not change locks or stop utilities on property they are renting. It's against the law here. Also, in the United States, you could purchase and own your own home for less than the amount you've stated. Rental amount that high is unheard of around here so I'm assuming you were selling them the home....... like I said, "I'm really confused!"

I think you did the right things. If they knew they couldn't afford the house, then they shouldn't have taken a big step such as trying to buy it. If I were you, they wouldn't have got the house unless I was paid all my money in full. Don't feel bad. Why should they get to screw you over, and they get by with not paying you. Don't feel bad.

My first question would be did you warn them before you actually contacted the companies. Let them know that the bill had to be paid. Did you let them know and give them a time limit to get it done. After that if they didn't I would have done the same thing if they had not brought the bill up to date. It sounds to me that they are taking advantage of your soft heart. Don't feel bad you did what you thought you had to do.

Thorns are provided with the Rose, so that you do not take the softness of Rose for granted. Be nice to people but on very reasonable grounds.Otherwise people will take you to be a fool. Let the other people know that You are a practical person.

You are not wrong. Slight only