Emotional aspects of divorce

Every situation is different. I don't know what your plans are but one of you should find a temporary place to live until a permanent place is found. Is it difficult because he is being abusive to you?

Well, I have been through this twice in my life. Here in my home state the courts require divorcing parents to attend a Parent Education Program (PEP) prior to finalizing the divore or "Dissolution of Marriage". I am a social worker and one of the providers of this class. What you are speaking of is the transition phase of going form being married to being single again. In all actuality, despite the fact that you initiated the divorce, what you are going through is a grief process. I would not doubt thet your soon-to-be "x" might have complained of being "blind-sided" by this. Typically that is when that spouse begins their grief response, while you had started your response quite sometime ago. I just want to validate for you that being in the same house while you are trying to negotiate the "SPLIT" is a difficult process. When I informed my daughter's mother that I would be pursuing a divorce, I ended up moving into the spare guest room. It was difficult at best. Unfortunately, there is no magical formula for negotiating a grief process and this particular transition phase. We all greive differently and what might work for me, may not work for you. This is probably not the answer that you want to hear, but you have all the tools and coping strategies necessary to get through this time. Its just going to be uncomfortable for a while. Good luck. My thoughts are with you and your family.

Have your feelings diminished or, are you feeling powerless over a problem in the marriage and due to this, there is a lack of emotional closeness. If there are still feelings of love and affection then you should work on the relationship before deciding on divorce.

i am sorry to hear what your going through and i wish you the best,at first it would be hard. but with time and friends it will get better. i have not been through one and i have no real good advice, but i just want you to know that is probably the best and you have come to this yourself and need it. best of luck with you and your future

I do feel so sorry for you especially living with him. I seperated from my husband 10 years ago when he left to be with another woman. My children begged me not to divorce him so I didn't. We sorted everything out wihtout having to divorce but I can't imagine how hard it would have been to stay in the same house. If you can be amicable about this it may work but I would be worried in case their was violence because of the strong feelings that will be involved. Is there no way one of you could move out?