good manners or just old tradition?
By lebgirl90
@lebgirl90 (181)
Lebanon
March 1, 2007 8:12am CST
se my friend and i were arguing about this subject. her cousin wants to break up with his girlfriend and doesn't know how, but that's not the dilemma, he has bought her a 500$ watch and a 500$ mobile phone and cloth worth 1000$, she says that when they break up she should give him back the watch and the mobile phone and her cousin agree's with her but out of politness he won't accept them back, i say that she shouldn't give the watch and the mobile back cz gifts are a gesture of kidness it shows the person that u care about him. my friend says that since it's gold she would have to give it back or she would be a girl with no manners.i mean it doesn't matter if my friend's cousin will accept them back or not, do u think that she should return the gifts or not?
4 responses
@BlackBay (584)
• Canada
1 Mar 07
If your dating someone for a while and bought them gifts you wanted them to have then those are theirs to keep. To ask for them back after breaking up is just Tacky and childish behaviour, what are you gonna do with those gifts give them to someone else. If your not sure a relationship isn't gonna work out don't spend extravagantly on someone your not sure of.
@lebgirl90 (181)
• Lebanon
1 Mar 07
sweety u missunderstood my point. of course he's not gonna ask her to return the gifts but it is expected of her, by "good" manners, to return the gifts, i totally disagree with this concept. gd answer by the way
@BlackBay (584)
• Canada
1 Mar 07
I really don't think a person should offer the gifts that were bought for them back out of "good manners" they were gifts."Good Manners" would be at the time of recieving the gift the person should say that is "too Much" or "I don't feel comfortable recieving such a gift at this time in our relationship" if a person is not sure that it is gonna work out.A"Classy person" doesn't ask for gifts back and your friend is a Classy Person.:)
@urbandekay (18278)
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1 Mar 07
A hard question and one that depends on your culture a lot. My thoughts are that honouring the gift honours the giver. Is that honour also returned? But it sounds like they need to sit down and discuss it and find a solution between themselves
all the best urban
@0122777528 (52)
• Egypt
1 Mar 07
No No, She isn't obliged to return gifts wharever the case is. That is my opinion.
