what are you going to do??

that depends solely on you. if u know that you are happy with the former chap and still love him then no point keeping the latter one under an impression that u love him. what i feel is that you should be true to yourself rather than to anybody else. you can discuss and sort this out. if the person really understands you then he will definitely let you go. on the other side if you are too egoistic i dont think you should not go for that option. if i would have been in your place, i wopuld have told the latter chap that i cant continue with him coz i still love the former person and i dont want to cheat him but at the same time i wouldnt have gone back to him coz i have a big ego. i m true to my heart but i cant let go my ego

I'm not sure I buy your story. The fact is that past relationship wasn't so great or perfect, if it was you would still be in it. You say you broke up for an unexplainable reason, there is no such thing. The fact is the relationship you are in now is the right one, the other didn't work. You can face the facts and go on with your life or just sit around fantasizing about something that doesn't exist. The worst part is that you are being dishonest to you present partner. If your confused about what you really want you shouldn't be in the present relationship. Ciao

if you think you can have the past again then why not, after all you've said that you know where to find that happiness..but if things won't be the same as before just try to accept the fact that you and your past won't be together anymore...make your present right for you...try to know him and never expect too much on him..never compare him to your past because he's a different person now and we just have to accept that sometimes it's not enough that we love the person, let us always think that it takes two to tango..i've been in your situation before, i might say that it's easy for me to say advices but if we try to see the positive part, it would be helpful to let go of the past and continue our life with someone elese...somebody who'll love us more..

if i were in ur case, i will be true to myself...say sorry to the guy that i've been hurting for being unfair to him and find what makes me happy. what's the use of staying in a relationship that never makes you happy? ur just hurting other persons feelings and especially you're making yourself miserable. so just be true to urself...

I also have the same feeling as your when i broke-up but the point is that now you have your new love in life. It is really unfair to him. You love him but the same time you still thinking about your ex. I think you have to sit down and think again really carefully. Which one your heart one most? If you want your ex, go on as that is your love at first but make sure he also want you back!! As for me what past is past. I won't go back to my ex no matter what it is as she left me in the first place. Whys should we bother again right??

if you are settling for someone who doesn't make you happy amd who isn't "right" for you, maybe if its only for money or something, it will explode sooner or later, if it hasn't already. You will feel empty and lost inside I think. That's what is the saddest thing. You will probably try to find what's missing I think. Maybe somebody you hurt isn't gonna try it anymore, with you or maybe with anyone else either.

i think just be happy with the person u r because of him not be happy or sad coz of ur ex if u do this u might land up in a mess later when ur present realisez abt ur past if hes good he'll make u feel comfortable and forget ur past(ex) and make u love him more but if he does not thn probable hes even the wrong choice dear... tkcr all the best

The first time my husband and I were together, (not married yet)...our relationship was as perfect as the way you describe your first one. It was based on two years of being close friends, knowing each others likes/dislikes, etc before taking it to the next level. I was his first everything, so when we broke up, it was because he wanted to discover for himself if there was "more out there" than what we were experiencing. Because I had been in previous relationships, I KNEW it couldnt get any better. I had to sit back and watch his heart get broken, and let my own heart break as I watched what I thought was him finding happiness elsewhere. After several months of being apart, and both of us trying to date other people, we ended up back together, stronger and healthier than ever before, and now we are happily married with a baby on the way. Whatever is meant to be, is going to happen. You can try to force it, but then you never really know if its "meant". All you can do is trust and have faith in yourself, and do what makes YOU happy, let him pursue his own happiness. If you do TRULY love him, then you will let him discover on his own what pleases his heart, and if its you, he will find his way back to you. Good Luck!!

yes ofcourse its your mistake. Not just mistake but a very big mistake. you have done a sin because you are hurting someone and he is unable to find out your betrayedness.

Nope...! I never pursue to live a person with a wrong hapinnes co'z its make me suffer for my whole life...better to be honest than you pretending its okey but its not....

Whow! Your past relationship was so ideal! No fights, no misunderstandings, perfect! But if i will be asked, i don't like this kind of relationship. I think its boring and i think you'll not learn anything. =) Anyway, as for your question, i'd rather stop the current relationship i have if i think i'm not happy with it. Pain is always there. Somebody will always get hurt. But it'll be more hurting if you pro-longed the pain. Its better to be honest, dear. The truth hurts. But that's the beauty of it. =) So do what makes yo happy. =)

I think you're being unfair to ur current boyfriend. i suggest you broke up with him first and think hard what you really want.

i dont know if he really needs you he would be back if not fetch for one else