What are you really doing? tell me If You LOVED Someone . . .
@totalearnings (1603)
India
March 1, 2007 11:31am CST
If you love someone because he or she is really gorgeous then it's JUST INFATUATION.
If you love some one because you shouldn't leave him because others think that you shouldn't then it's ONLY COMPROMISE .
If you love some one because thinking that you cannot live without his touch then It's PURE LUST.
If you love some one because you have been kissed by him or her then it's INFERIORITY COMPLEX .
If you love some one because you cannot leave him or her thinking that it would hurt his feelings then it's -CHARITY .
If you love some one because you share every thing with him or her then it's FRIENDSHIP
****But if you feel the pain of the other person more than him even when he is stable and you cry for him THEN THAT'S LOVE .If you get attracted to other people but stay with him without any regrets THEN IT'S LOVE. If you let him go knowing that he has to go but he doesn't want to THEN THAT'S LOVE
what are you really doing HONESTLY......?
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22 responses
@juoanna (361)
• Portugal
1 Mar 07
lets do this.. i tell you why i am loving and you answer me what it is ;). deal.
I love some one bcause i love to speak with him, if i could i would be with him all the tima, when i get way from him its like some part of me has left, i like is voice, i hear his problems and try to help him, I could do averything to make him happy, i could even get way from his life if that could help him being happy.... What i am doing, so?
@totalearnings (1603)
• India
1 Mar 07
well hats of to you juoanna. thats real sacrifice with a torch of true love in your hands. just wondering if everyone were like you then the divorce stats would be zero. blessed be Blessed be
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@dj_udin2002 (166)
• Indonesia
2 Mar 07
i will meet her and tell her i`m in love with her ehhehe
and send her flower also ask him for date with me
last asking her would your marrie me heheeh
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@weemam (13372)
•
2 Mar 07
I love him because we met when we were teenagers , I love him because I can tell him my secrets, I love him because he is my soul mate . I love him because he understands be like no other person does . I love him because I trust him , I love him more every day and we have been married almost 46 years ..lol is that enough proof xx
@totalearnings (1603)
• India
2 Mar 07
hi weemam. the one whos seen your posts or responded doesnt need any proof, myself being one of them. well my age is 10 years short of the experience your have in life. so i am really short of words to say anything except that you are wonderful with cystal clear love to your soulmate, great and blessed.
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@hedonistic (149)
• India
2 Mar 07
Lemme first congratulate you on drawing so distinct lines between Friendship charity inferiority complex and Love.
You have just made all the concepts regarding love CRYSTAL CLEAR to me.
Since I don't think I have ever fallen in love with anyone so I can't say anything regarding love but I have just realised that all the persons whom I think are my friends aren't.
@totalearnings (1603)
• India
2 Mar 07
hi hedonistic!! i happy that the concepts of my post are clarifying to you. but i fear what you have realised about your friends based on the contents of my post needs to be reconsidered because you admit that you haven't tasted love.
@totalearnings (1603)
• India
9 Mar 07
well you are a lucky one to have someone who fitted perfectly.
@DiorelleBabe (226)
• Philippines
1 Mar 07
Oh gosh..I'm in the stage of our relationship wherein what I'm doing is CHARITY...but I do care for my boyfriend, I guess I just need time to realize if I really love him or not at all...but right now, it's CHARITY.
NIce post by the way (",)
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@totalearnings (1603)
• India
1 Mar 07
you care for your boyfriend and yet need time to realize the reality. is it some fear factor going within you or you are in a dilemma?
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@wins902007 (133)
• Romania
2 Mar 07
There is someone i cannot forget. I cannot stop thinking about, and im jealous whenever i saw her speaks, talks to other guy. Perhaps it's love im feeling?
@totalearnings (1603)
• India
2 Mar 07
from what you say i doubt if the other person you are thinking knows your intentions. if she doesnt your intentions or if you are loving her within yourself developing jealousy i think you would end up disgusted and unfullfilled. all the best
@silentwill (1685)
• Philippines
2 Mar 07
I believe we cannot really define love and there is no one reason why we love someone. Sometimes we jsut do, and while I understand that us humans have the tendency to just wanna know why, there are just some questions that don't have answers and love is like that.
@totalearnings (1603)
• India
2 Mar 07
well if we go to define 'love' then it may go into 100k lines. theres a reason for everything and even for love. your reason may be different from mine or any others.
@sunny1984 (639)
• India
2 Mar 07
Hey dear! i liked your description of love very much.
And if you are a girl would love you if i could find you.
but if your a boy then the refer the seventh point of your description that would be suitable for us, have a nice day and keep sharing this kind of nice informations.
@totalearnings (1603)
• India
2 Mar 07
hi sunny. thanks foryour response. only the seventh point is indeed suitable for us. hi fi to you.
@fasoftian9646 (17)
• Pakistan
2 Mar 07
yeh i also have. i really care for her. when she is not with me, i missed her very much. i have a true relationship with her. we share all ours life problem, ours ideas of living. i am 100% satisfied with her, because she doesnt hide any thing with me, she always asked me when she is in trouble. i really proud her and thats a true love. i really love her and her habits.
@totalearnings (1603)
• India
5 Mar 07
nice of you fasoftian. hope everyone gets a person like you. always love, love, care, share. blessed be
@cybergwen (158)
• United States
3 Mar 07
Wow, well put! All of my past relationships started falling away as I read each line. I made it to the end though with the one I have now.
My BF is going through a bad time right now and I just can't help myself from constantly wishing that I could take the pain for him. That is when I knew this was different.
Thanks for making me see just how special he is:)
@totalearnings (1603)
• India
4 Mar 07
it is love that you have that is making you feel or bear the pain of your bf. orelse you wouldn't and just leave with a smooth touch till hes back to you. may you both get along for a life time. blessed be
@docsammy (93)
• Nigeria
2 Mar 07
Yes, I love someone and I've come to realize that love isnt all about looks, personality and wealth. There are other things that is attached to love. Have someone ever asked you why you love him or her? If yes, whats ur answer to the fellow?
I can simply say that love is a strong liking for someone, a strong passionate affection for another person. Love is patient and kind; love is not jealous or boastful; its not arrogant or rude; love does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrong, but rejoices in the right, love bears all things; believes all things; hopes all things; endures all things.
Some of the things that exist between peeps isnt love rather infatuation. True love hardly comes by and I'm happy that i'm practicing a real and honest love.
@totalearnings (1603)
• India
2 Mar 07
none of those whom i love asked me why coz they know that its true love that i giving and will always be giving till i am alive. they know that i am the firt and last, and the only person to secure them from feeling even a tiny dose of discomfort or unhapiness. agree to your explanation about love and may you be able to experience the e\ternity of honest and real love.
@mommy2jason922 (529)
• United States
2 Mar 07
i have been attracted with other guys but i am still married to the man i love. yes i cry for him, all the time! i dont get why guys dont cry lol! i love when we just sit on the couch and cuddle and watch a movie, i love when he runs his fingers through my hair, or gentally kisses me on the forhead. i can just tell he loves when i rub his back, or just make his lunch for work. i really love just looking at past pictures and i will just smile or tear up (happy tears of course). if it made him happy to leave then so be it. i would do anything for him!
@totalearnings (1603)
• India
2 Mar 07
it seems natural with many like you to get attracted to other guys even while experiencing those memorable feminine conquests through marriage. may be even visually. its only that strong bundle of love between both keeping you intact.
@fatal_ivory (238)
• Philippines
2 Mar 07
I love someone because I don't see any reason not to. Love doesn't need to have reasons for you to do or have it. As long as you freely feel and give the love you want, there is no way to describe it but by the deepest meaning of it. Love is unconditional and not envy. For if it is, then, love will have no space. Despite all his shortcomings, the love never been lessen but still acceptance comes in to the picture. No ifs and buts for love, only dos.
@totalearnings (1603)
• India
2 Mar 07
hi fatal ivory. you are right as far as defining love is concerned but if you are loving someone theres is always a reason behind be it- because you like the other for some reason or the others talking or caring or affection or help etc etc. or all these that are binding both together.
@charms88 (7538)
• Philippines
17 Mar 07
Okay, totalearnings, let's put my own perception of love this way. Before I got married, I met this man. He is my college sweetheart. There is this unexplained connection between us. We seldom argued and most of the time helped each other. I don't need to show to him my love in a thousand different ways because he knew it already. Just being near him gave me this feeling of contentment. We knew each of our thoughts, pains, happiness and dreams. Now, I don't know what kind of a love is that. The feelings of being this well loved is too much that it pained me to think we we're not able to conquer our own world. True love is painful when you're not together.
@desimanero (419)
• United States
2 Mar 07
i dont know if this makes sense...but i love someone so much i had to let him go.I love his touch...i love his voice...i love EVERYTHING about him.i stayed by his side through the good and the REAL UGLY.But he wasnt good to me.So i left him.It was the hardest thing i ever had to do.I still love him and i miss him so much.But sometimes loving someone means making sacrifices.
@totalearnings (1603)
• India
2 Mar 07
hi desimanero. there seems to only one sided love and care. from what you say it transpires that inspite of giving ones fullest part of love it may end up in sacrificing.
@magaw2tnk (103)
• United States
17 Mar 07
I love someone with everything he is. The way he stands tall, and reacts to others. How his hand fits into mine. The way he speaks to me, the comfort of it all. How strong his arms feel around me. When we look into each others eyes we see each other. When he is away I hurt for him but, I feel him always close by. That one touch feeling that glow, now I know love.
@510958208 (15)
• China
2 Mar 07
I love someone because he is a man who can make me happy.When we stay together,I Will feel relaxed.
