How do you argues with your bf/husband/fg/wife?

In my marriage I tell my wife the way things are going to be. If she does not like it, then I change my mind and say,"Yes, dear", and see things her way. This works everytime.

My boyfriend (of 2 years) and I don't really argue lol. But we don't really address the issue either so I'm not sure if it's any better. Whenever we have problems with each other, we'd exchange a few tense words, then go silent and leave each other alone for a few hours. I think it's because we're both very easygoing people so we've never really come across a situation where I felt like his thoughts/ideas/habits completely conflicted with mine (and vice versa), so I've never had to yell to make myself heard. I don't really notice who gives in more often..usually because we don't really talk about it but I do notice that he does takes into consideration what I say.

Well, If you don't like something, change it. If you can change it, change the way you thing 'bout it. sometimes people showing how their love to each other in a wrong way (mostly our parents). and the one that will hurt you the most is the one who love you or the one that you love. Funny isn't it?

Be like me , I never argue I just let my wife do all the argueing. I find it easier just to sit and listen. Although it can sometimes have a bad effect as she says it makes her angrier when I dont argue back. I will never understand women.

My husband and I tend to flare up very quickly about silly things which seem to be important at the time. I think I get so angry so quickly sometimes because I dont really listen to what he is saying and I tend to focus on one point he has raised. I cant beleive how he could be so narrow minded or stupid. We both shout and say things we dont mean. Then we dont speak for about 10 mins then just end up laughing and talk things through properly. I think it is the same for him. We always say next time we will listen properly to each other in the first place but we know that it is unlikely and eventually we will argue again. We dont argue over the really important things as we usually agree on them.

Today, I had argue with my wife. She was speaking mischeivious about my mother. That I was not able to listen. Although I know that she is my wife but my mother gave me birth and make me to this point that even all the person near about my city know me. Is my argue with wife is correct than pls reply me or if wrong than please also reply me.

I think everyone argues sometime, - it's only natural. I'm not a screamer or a shouter thogh, - I tend to go quiet, and sulk!!! LOL! He usually gives in ecause he can't stand the silent treatnebt - LOL!

If the topic supports me and if I think that I am right and if I think that my girl friend is wrong at any discussion I usually argues with her alot.

When my husband and I argue, neither of us yells. I talk really quiet and in a really even tone and he knows he's in trouble! We usually just argue for a minute or two and then I walk away. If he can come to me and not act like nothing is his fault, then we will talk about it and come to a compromise. If he says "I can't help it, thats the way I was taught" or something like that, I just walk away again. Sometimes I think I am too hard on him. His dad wouldn't let him do anything, and never took responsibility for his own actions, so I guess it's no surprise that my husband has trouble taking responsibility for his actions as well. It's just hard for me to understand because my parents taught us to think for ourselves and take responsibility for our own actions.

Before I was to afraid to argue with anyone. But now I do and the way I do is is by not making it personal by attacking the person. I listen to what they have said, I sort through it and see if they are trying to telling me something or give me information I need to know. If I disagree with this information, I ask them how they drew that conclusion. Then I explain how I feel about this, This does not happen over night, and you have to get passed taking information in and lashing back in 2 seconds, or you instantly saw red.. As well I do not name call for example You idiot, cant you get the directions right. I would say perhaps if you wrote the directions down, they would stay in your mind a bit longer. This is called fair fighting, and it works very well.

u know sometimes being mad isnt a bad thing, coz for me personally being with my bf for 4 years, we had lots of quarrels before, being mad at him is just a way of letting him know that i care so much up to the point of yelling at him when he's being stubborn...coz u know sometimes boys can be very very hard headed and its more frequent for them to get on your nerves than just to do what u are telling them which by the way is for their own good...but when you yell at people even just for the slightest mistake they did is a different story...but being mad at them because u care so much is not bad at all....

I would start out calm but if I heard things and it was true. Yeah I trully come out unglued and I would be yelling to let my feeling out. I flat out tell the person how am I feeling and then I would try to walk away from the situation and give it time to cool down and then I would go back calm and sit down and come up to a conclusion because you can not go angry all day. Because if someone hurt you then you need to realize is it worth hurting the person or not. Because sometime you have to argue to get your point acrossed.

Usually I get upset give a dirty glare and she gets mad gives me a dirty glare then I try to calmly explain why I am upset. But then I usually get even more upset and then I try my best to avoid anymore conversation because I don't like yelling and try to stay away from it. It's always so much fun.

when i arbues with my girlfirend, we are not talking proximate 20 minutes and i placate with my girlfiend. when i arbues with my girlfiend hard we don`tare not talking for a long time, 10-20 days but i don`t like this tips of arbues. i like romanticism :X :D

Some habits we pickup subconsciously without even knowing, that has happened with you. I once try to prove my point by discussion,if someone does not agree then I just keep shut and think may be better sense will prevail and will make him understand. But I do not keep my anger for a long time.

You are all right. It is very very hard to give up our parents' bad habits. Even though we know it's wrong we keep doing the same over and over again. I think we need a good therapy to give us new good habits like staying calm when something is bothering us. At the same time we're not perfect but when I see couples discussing calmly, I know it is the best way to do it. Being agro does not bring us anywhere.

I raised my voice only if I need too..Then I always cry whenever I'm mad because i'm always suppressing my anger and when i can take it anymore that I want to kill somebody I cried to myself..One time my husband and I have an argument that we don't talk to each other, tears just streaming down my face I didnt noticed my 3 year old son was there. He looked at me and asked "why, mommy?..I just told him mommy is mad. lol

Took me a while to realize, and understand, that my wife of 16 years is not in competition with me, but is a true partner. When I came to that realization most of our arguing stopped. My parents were fierce competitors, having to always be right, and I found myself more and more like her. Relationships are full of understanding, comprimise and love. I know that now and my relationship is much better than ever because of that. We still argue occasionally but I now understand that, yes, I am wrong at times and that she is not my enemy. Now we just reach a conclusion together and talk through our disagreements. Life is hard enough as it is. Fighting with your partner just makes it harder and really doesn't make any sense.

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Sometimes he will compramise and sometimes she will compramise. That is life. Either of the two has to compramise or there is no mental peace. They will be arguing/quarrellings forever.