Accepted or turned to the other girls

Indonesia
March 1, 2007 7:10pm CST
I had the girlfriend. But his parents did not agree to our relations. On the other hand, my girlfriend asked married despite without the blessing from his parents. I was confused. What should I do? Must accepted the offer? Or turned to the other girls who was approved by his parents?
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lovesfreedom
@lovesfreedom (1245)
• United States
2 Mar 07
There have been many happy marriages where the parents did not approve. However, that is not the real question here. Do you love her? Do you want to marry her? It is always easier to have the approval of the family, but with or without it, if you are not sure about marrying her, my advise is not to right now.
rheytanpopo
@rheytanpopo (11)
• Indonesia
3 Mar 07
dulunya aku berprinsip klo aku hanya akan menikah dengan pria yang mencintaiku dan aku cintai dengan atau tanpa restu orang tua. sehingga aku sangat tergila-gila dengan taumingtse, yang hidup hanya buat cintanya kepada sanchai.. tapi sekarang, setelah membaca buku2 pernikahan, aku berpendapat berbeda. nikah itu bukan hanya cinta saja, tapi jg restu orangtua. tapi liat dulu alasan orangtuanya. jika alasan tidak prinsipil, kenapa g brusaha dulu buat mendapatkan restunya sebelum nikah. tapi klo alasannya sgt prinsipil just left her and try to find the other girl
rheytanpopo
@rheytanpopo (11)
• Indonesia
4 Mar 07
in my past, i always said that i just marry with a boy who loves me and i love him with or without patents's excuse. that is why i am get mad with boy named taumingtse whose lives just for his girlfriend, san chai but, after i read the wedding books, i though that marriage is not only love but also parents's excuse. if u want to get a "barakah" wedding. in our culture marriage is not only between a boy and a girl but also both of their family. dont u think that is difficult to be their member if u are not accepted? so i though why dont u wait until they accept u? or if u are not patience to wait, just left her and try to get a new relationship and marry with the girl...