Please advice me about my cyber love affair!!
By ladyheart25
@ladyheart25 (1815)
Philippines
October 15, 2006 2:45pm CST
I have a bf through chat for almost two years now. I feel i love him coz im happy when i talk with him and he support me a lot, financially and emotionally. But its too long time but we havent meet in person. But im willing to wait until he comes to meet me. Anyone, it is fair to love like this?
9 responses
@ladyheart25 (1815)
• Philippines
19 Oct 06
hmmmmmm that thought breaks my heart........i just hope we will be an exception.........
@Annilyn (117)
• United States
18 Oct 06
I may be wrong about this and Im sorry for even putting this into your thoughts...but...Have you ever asked yourself if maybe your not the only one who he is having a cyber-relationship with? Or is he married and not telling me...I dont know I dont think a cyber-relationslhip is a good idea there are to many what-ifs, plus people can be anything they want to be on-line!
@ladyheart25 (1815)
• Philippines
18 Oct 06
Im not thinking about that honestly. I trust him and also i believe no damn guy will be so stupid to spent long hours on chat, long hours on phone calls every week, 300$ evry month, and gifts every now and then for a girl u never seen in person yet!?! I believe it costs more to have a gf in real, am i right?
@ladyheart25 (1815)
• Philippines
18 Oct 06
thanks a lot. I just hope so, im tired of looking for the right one ehhh
@Annilyn (117)
• United States
18 Oct 06
Well I say good luck to you, and I wish you the best!..but yes there are men out there who are married and send other women presents, spend hours on the phone,send the "other" woman money, but Im not saying this is whats going on! Just be careful you sound like a great person and I would hate for you to get hurt.
@Lackingstyle (7509)
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17 Oct 06
How can you ask us if it's fair to love like this? We're not in the situation.
If you're having doubts about it, then perhaps you're not as commited as you think to the course.
@ladyheart25 (1815)
• Philippines
17 Oct 06
Im asking suppose ur in my situation. Maybe i just got bored but im happy with his companion. I am much committed with him, in fact, i dont have nay bf other than him. I feel i love him and i got no problems at the moment with him, he's a nice guy i can say.
@Lackingstyle (7509)
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17 Oct 06
As I said, I'm not in your situation, I can even 'suggest' what you should do because it could be completely foreign to you!
I do think you should experience relationships outside of the one you're in, outside of the internet, hell even if it's just creating friends with guys and nothing further.
Do you have plans to meet?
@ladyheart25 (1815)
• Philippines
18 Oct 06
yes we got plans. He plans to visit me maybe next year, hopefully. I already had real relationships before but havent found the one, i hope that this is the right one..
@vipul20044 (5793)
• India
18 Oct 06
Well
People might say that this medium isnt good trustworthy and what not
but yes i also had a cyber love and am in a relationship wth my gf since 4 years!
We do meet each other though but then, to make things sure, you have to meet him
i mean its easy for people to act on net and its usually a different personality as to what they are in reality
Just ask yourself a few questions
that you love him but does he really love you
Does he really want to be with you
If the answer is yes i would say just wait and have patience! Dreams do come true
@ladyheart25 (1815)
• Philippines
18 Oct 06
To answer your questions, i know i love him and he feel the same way and his action proves it but just doubting if he really wants to meet me or not but ill just wait until i get old lol.
@ladyheart25 (1815)
• Philippines
18 Oct 06
but what happen? Didnt it work out for you or u just got tired of the setup?
@ladyheart25 (1815)
• Philippines
18 Oct 06
yeah...The important thing is u experienced being inlove though it didnt succeed at all, i know there will come another one, she might be the one, who knows? Im Mary from Philippines.
@janey84 (546)
• Australia
18 Oct 06
I used to like a chatter before. He seemed very nice and I felt totally secured with him. We talked a lot of stuff, almost anything. He even called me. At that time, I wished I could meet him asap and be his gf. But after a year, I found out that he was a damn jerk. I wasn't his only victim. There were about 4 to 5 teenagers that fell under his trap. His plan was to get the trust of the gals then slowly lure them out so that he could strike any moment. He actually raped 2 of them and now he's in jail. He could do anything for his plans to success.
For your case,, hmmm,,, I'm sorry for telling you this... I wasn't meant to frighten you, I just want you to be cautious.. ok.. If he's not the one, it's alrite, you can always find one... but just pls be careful... Go ahead what you think it's rite but at the same time be cautious and maybe you can inform your family or frenz about it. Cautious doesn't mean for you to have doubt about this guy, it's just a natural thing to do..
Just keep us updated ok... Best of luck gal!!!
@ladyheart25 (1815)
• Philippines
18 Oct 06
lemme tell u that this topic is really making a long story now hehe..But anyway thanks guys for replying me... As for what u've said, thanks girl for advising me but im certainly aware of bad outcomes also. Added up to my story, im already 25 and he is 39, divorced (sent me his papers), he knows all about me (having a son of 3 years old) and i have talked to his parents also. My friends and family knows about him thats why its hard to commit relationship here nearby coz they know im committed. Too lucky i never get the chance to fall in love here. You see its easy to fall for someone who's near, right?
@ladyheart25 (1815)
• Philippines
18 Oct 06
Yeah, too far... Im from Philippines and he's from Norway..that makes it hard for us.
@bharathshah (655)
• India
18 Oct 06
u r rite see him face to face then only u should make any decision
@ladyheart25 (1815)
• Philippines
18 Oct 06
yeah i bet it will be the final judgement when we see each other and spent some hours together, i have to realize if he really love or not.
