My family demands one more child

I know that nobody is ever rally fully prepared for children, but I don't think anybody should be pressured into having children either or it could be a very unhappy situation for everybody concerned.

I agree with you. If you don't have the proper means to take care of your child, don't bother. Even though it's always better to have a companion for your daughter, I think that you should also think about/for your (unborn) second child. If you have a second child, how much would you have to sacrifice? Will your daughter or whole family suffer because of one extra child? And of course, most importantly, how much would the second child have to sacrifice, will your second child be able to live happily without worry? (for his/her early ages at least...) I don't think this is a decision that other people can solve for you but I think that you should decide this with your heart rather than what other people tell you. I think you and your wife should have a private talk about this without the disruption of your parents.

Having another child is not a bad idea but having a child because of something good is going to happen is not a good idea to think. If you are interested in having another child then its fine but for other reasons its not fair. Dont discuss with your parents but have a decision with your wife and find out her interest in another baby..

I aggreed with your opinion, having one more child should be prepare carefully. We did not expect that in the future their education or facilities is not fulfil. I think having one more child should be a decision of yours not your parents. Just give a time for about 2 or 3 years and see, is it the right time ?

no need to worry, it is nothing like that. first u settle nicely and u plan for another child. there is a TIME for all but we should wait till that time approches us.k have a nice day.

A baby is a gift from God. But having it is a major responsibility. If you think you are financially and emotionally not ready to bear another child, i suggest that you stay that way as of the moment. I think it'll be more risky to add another child when you know you can't support them well. Don't be carried away by the desires of your family especially if you know you can't handle them yet. Just enjoy your daughter now so that when the right time comes, you'll know what to give to your second child. =)

If you are happily married, that is what is important you have a daughter and you are happy with that. You say you live in a costly city, and I think since you're happy why should you have to have another child simply because your family demands so? Your family will not be the one having trouble getting by worrying about another child, and besides you are not in a stable situation for a child nor do you feel the need to have another you are happy with your current situation so I say unless you can and want to have another one don't. Best of luck :)

hello . i think one child is not a enough for a man myself.they are saying the right thing.just do it if your mum and wife are in one side and you on your own.God will help you with finance if you make up your mind to have another child.

hello . i think one child is not a enough for a man myself.they are saying the right thing.just do it if your mum and wife are in one side and you on your own.God will help you with finance if you make up your mind to have another child.

hello . i think one child is not a enough for a man myself.they are saying the right thing.just do it if your mum and wife are in one side and you on your own.God will help you with finance if you make up your mind to have another child.

hello . i think one child is not a enough for a man myself.they are saying the right thing.just do it if your mum and wife are in one side and you on your own.God will help you with finance if you make up your mind to have another child.

If you wait until you are wealthy enough to have another child, you will never do so as you never will be. There will always be some expense that will outweigh that decision. You need to sit down with your wife and discuss the matter and make a joint decision. What is really holding you back from having another child? Can those issues be overcome? Good luck!

I agree with you. If you can't afford another baby then you really shouldn't have one. It's not my place to criticize God, but how do you know that God will provide for you if you have another baby? I guess that comes down to the whole belief structure though. Some poeple believe and some don't. You shouldn't have another baby if you don't want one, and it's not fair of your parents or your wife to try and push the issue. Be firm and stand up for your beliefs. Don't let them break you down. In any marriage, a man has as much as as his wife when it comes to having children.

I am sailing in the same boat, I am a Bombayite married for 6+yrs and have a 5 yr old princess The pressure from my parents is perhaps not as strong as in ur case, but its there I do not think financials is a major issue Parenting is not only about feeding childeren or taking them to school and college Parenting is moulding the personality of the child by teaching (and leading by examples) You need to give up some of your own habits and inculcate new good ones so that your child follows. He might not, but you need to continue patiently So think on that too. The arguement that the child will feel lonely if alone OR he/she will learn to share if she/he has a brother/sister does not hold true if i compare it with real life examples I have seen siblings not sharing and I have seen people who were their parents' only child and yet are cheerful and successful in life After all it depends how you mould the child whether it has brothers or no Do not think much about 'affordability' of a child in money terms, that's not good, children are not products! Additionally with this attitude and behavior, we also help India's 'population control programme' in a small way. don't you feel so? Son being 'budhaape ki laathi' (support in old age) is nowadays not really true In fact daughters are seen caring more about parents, while the son is away busy with his own family somewhere (If at all I change my mimd and wish for a second child I would again ask for a daughter) sunavi

I think you are being very wise about it all....and I'm sorry but you dont bring children into this world so your existing child has someone to play with...that is pure foolishness ESPECIALLY if you cant afford a second child at the moment! No offence to your family or your wife but their logic is seriously off IMO....If I were you, I'd stand my ground with them because realistically you are making the right choice by not wanting to ahve more children right now..

hello . i think one child is not a enough for a man myself.they are saying the right thing.just do it if your mum and wife are in one side and you on your own.God will help you with finance if you make up your mind to have another child.

I know that maybe your culture is much different from mine here in the USA, but from the standpoint of faith, your family is right. A child is a blessing from God and if you trust him to provide all your needs he will. My husband and I had 3 children and we were never quite ready for them and it was hard sometimes. But they are all grown now and have learned from the hard times how to survive. I wouldn't recommend that you have a child if you're having problems feeding those you have now, but if you're doing well, then another child would be good. My children were almost exactly 3 years apart and it seemed to provide them with a good relationship and they have always gotten along well with each other.

I do agree with you on most of the things you mentioned. Only children are not the end of the world. you and your spouse should not let anyone pressure you into doing something that you don't feel ready for. My DH still wouldn't have children if he wanted to make sure were financially ready to have them. I had to ask him what we needed to do to be ready. Pay off debt? Start saving? What? Finally, we just gave up and started our family. Now, 7 years and 3 children later, we are able to support them, and God has blessed us every step of the way. We have sacrificed some things but have gained in so many others. Best of luck to you in this journey. God will make it happen when HE thinks it's time.