letting go
By chalanash
@chalanash (59)
Philippines
March 2, 2007 4:33am CST
i have a friend who just started a relationship w a guy! both of them came from a not so good previous relationship.. they went out, dated then later on they became a couple.. til recently i heard the guy has just told my friend that he's taking time off fr the relationship bec of personal reasons which my friend didn't tell me.anyway, she's in the stage of shock upto now, thinking just when all the things in her life is doing great for the 1st time, now this...i saw her sad agaid asking "when will i be happy?" why do guys do that? it's the "it's about me, not you" reason i heard again & again guys....
question: should u let go of a person u love simply bec ur in a mess? can u not open up & let her play the part of being a partner in ur life. solving things together not apart. i can't get... is it the ego thing, that they are guys & should handle/olve problems on their own. duh...what if u decide to comeback & yet find out that u hav nobody to return to anymore......would you take that risk?
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2 responses
@lpipe0240 (1161)
• United States
2 Mar 07
It's time like theses that you need to stay by your freind. She need you. She'd just been dumped and from the sound of it the guy could not give her an honest answer. I told a girl once the truth of why I was breaking up with her and it hurt her. Then she told her parents, all of our freinds. I told her the truth and she reacted badly. But the truth in thes case is what we need. Otherwise how are we ever going to change for the better.
@chalanash (59)
• Philippines
2 Mar 07
what bothers me is that this guy is planning to come back, question will be, will she allow her to? welll i think that's the 1 thing she can only ans. should people like that be given a chance?
@lpipe0240 (1161)
• United States
2 Mar 07
Maybe she should give him a second chance if he does come back. It's whent they go for the third or forth time that you really need to stop and think about it.
@whyaskq (7523)
• Singapore
2 Mar 07
In my opinion, it is very risky to be in a relationship especially when one is "in a mess". It is worst if both do not have a clear mind of what they want out of a relationship. There will be a day when one party wakes up and hey... we have another unhappy couple on earth :(
A relationship can fail for many reasons, and often, it is triggered by one party, aggrevated by another.
The outcome depends on how both parties manage with an open mind instead of being defensive. It would be good if they should come together eventually. Otherwise, it might be better off without each other. Either case, your friend still have you. I am sure you will give her the necessary support. Why not refer your friend to myLot, and I am sure we all will be glad to have her as a friend :)
