who should bring money?
By heartonfire
@heartonfire (4119)
Denmark
68 responses
@sherinek (3320)
• United States
19 Oct 06
You cannot seperate nowadays. Because there are husbands who stay at home to look after children while the wife is away at work. Its high time to change this attitude because husband and wife play equal roles in the family drama. THis is what I personally think and it is how it happened in my family. My hubby appreciates very much the money I bring home and he always tell me the life would not be this easy if I did not earn.
@heartonfire (4119)
• Denmark
19 Oct 06
but i also know many families who have children and both work,and they manage it pretty well,that is if the kids are not very small of course,and then they need their mother the most,i think.
@sherinek (3320)
• United States
19 Oct 06
Ours is such a family. Both working children at home but works out fine for us. When the kids were small, we had two servents. But now that they are big enough (8 and 4 yrs - boy & girl respectively) we dont have servents. My son is quite helpful in cleaning his room plus helping the sister to clean her's. We are a happy family.
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
27 Nov 06
I dont think it matters 'who' brings home the money so long as someone does....before I met my husband I ws the sole provider for the kids and I..I retired though when my hubby and I moved in togetehr and I got preg with our son....I did have a biz a couple yrs later for two yrs but now I dont work at all..
@heartonfire (4119)
• Denmark
27 Nov 06
yes,it shouldn't matter,but even with the fight for equal rights,it still doesn't sound right to be the woman supporting the whole family..
@heartonfire (4119)
• Denmark
28 Nov 06
i understand your point of view...but do you think you would feel right if you are the one who wakes up every morning and comes back late at night and your husband would lose time home..doing nothing?...
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
28 Nov 06
I hear what you're saying but I guess for me it would be a proud thing...I'd much prefer to be the bread winner in all honesty, now mind you I've always been a very independant person so having a husband who basically pays for my kids and I is tough for me...we've actually argued about it over the yrs
@heartonfire (4119)
• Denmark
18 Oct 06
well,for a while of course not,but at a certain point,after months of searching withouth results,it's a bit frustrating,but i keep quiet,this is only something i feel inside..thanks for your response
@heartonfire (4119)
• Denmark
16 Oct 06
i agree with you,but in some cases,like mine,he is still looking for a job..
@jain_bangalore (3136)
• India
26 Nov 06
i feel both should bring money to lead a happy life without any problems
@heartonfire (4119)
• Denmark
19 Oct 06
yeah,usually should,but there are cases and situations when one doesn't find a good job...and is still searching
@heartonfire (4119)
• Denmark
13 Dec 06
i tend to agree with you even though i believe in the equalty between sexes
@zubair439 (3183)
• India
15 Oct 06
i think both the husband and wife too ,this would impact a less burden on husband on his daily life and both can live together happily for long time ..
@heartonfire (4119)
• Denmark
15 Oct 06
yeah ,i agree,but in many cases it isn't like that..for example in my case,he is having troubles finding a job..we are still young but..we live toghether
@zubair439 (3183)
• India
16 Oct 06
ohh i hope ur husband get good job soon and my wishes for ur good future
@heartonfire (4119)
• Denmark
16 Oct 06
thank you for your wishes,and he is not my husband,only boyfriend:P
@marciascott (25529)
• United States
15 Oct 06
My husband is a good provider. but now a days you need two people to make it and another job.
@heartonfire (4119)
• Denmark
15 Oct 06
yes,i was asking this because in my case he doesn't have a job yet..we are not married and we are still young but we live toghether
@achyuta (2851)
• United States
12 Dec 06
Yes, if there is need women should and can work. But sometimes we take this (not saying it is you) 'now a days there is need of two people working' too far. I know many womena re working becuase of this so called 'job satisfaction'. Generally what happens in such a case is that the children are neglected.
@Asylum (47893)
• Manchester, England
12 Dec 06
The suggestion that the male is the provider is a rather outdated concept now, although it is still not easy for us to accept it sometimes.
If the woman can acquire a better paid job and provide better than the man then it makes perfect sense for her to do so. Similarly, it is often practical for both parties to earn in order to improve the standard of living or to save for the future. After all, marriage is a partnership and should always be considered so.
By the way, I like the new avatar.
@heartonfire (4119)
• Denmark
13 Dec 06
in my opinion,both of them should work even if one makes more than the other but it still feels bad if the woman works and the man just sits around
and i like your avatar too,i will use a christmas one soon also,but not yet;)
@epizzahut (2078)
• China
13 Dec 06
I think both husband and wife, if you have children need to look after the wife might stay home.
@heartonfire (4119)
• Denmark
13 Dec 06
i dont really agree with that also,even with kids,i know parents that manage to go to work also,both of them..
@navintheprince (730)
• India
13 Nov 06
I love working rather than sitting idle at home n make life lazy....About my partner..its her interest to work or not...whtever may be her interest...i dont like to oppose her..its her life.....
@Celestialvie (679)
• United States
14 Nov 06
these days, i think both the husband and the wife has to bring money in the house. times are hard right now. money is hard. we all have to work to make ends meet. it will be better if the husband can do it but if its not sufficient i dont see anything wrong with the wife having to help out! +
@pumpkinjam (8769)
• United Kingdom
4 Dec 06
I think it depends on each situation. If both are capable of work then yes both the man and the woman should work. If there are children involved and one chooses to stay home then I don't think it really matters so much any more. I know a few full time dads whose wives work basically because the woman had a better job in the first place! If the situation is just the couple then both should work if possible but if the man is struggling to find or keep a job then the woman should still work to bring in money.
@heartonfire (4119)
• Denmark
7 Dec 06
you are right in the situations that you presented,but what if for example,the woman can bring lots of money and the man could work but he doesn't because he doesn't find a well payed job?is that an excuse?
@juicemilk (2283)
• Australia
29 Nov 06
both would be nice :)
But I really dont think it matters who brings in the money, if the man can't handle it being the woman then he obviously has some issues
@heartonfire (4119)
• Denmark
12 Dec 06
money?yes,it never seems to be enough but that doesnt mean that just one of the partners should struggle to make it..