can love last for a lifetime?
By heartonfire
@heartonfire (4119)
Denmark
October 15, 2006 4:16pm CST
do u think that love grows stronger or turns into somethingelse in time?like being used to that person and think u can;t live withouth him..or maybe he/she became a part of your life ,and if he/she is not there anymore it feels like something missing?or do u think that u can fell in love everyday with the same person?
40 responses
@karinna (233)
• United States
17 Oct 06
i know love can last a lifetime, i know that in my case my husband and i made a packed 10 years ago that we would never and i mean never argue over money, that we would always talk to each other and the most important is that we would never go to bed alone angry. we made a choice to become one a whole a unit and we promised we wouldnt let our life and our love die. you have to love yourself enough in order to have that love given to you, you have to know you are a deserveing person. we have our bad days but we alwys have enough good days to weigh out the bad ones. even if your angry at the one you love all most always you end up forgiving them and the make up is where you see the love you share. my thoughts :-)
@heartonfire (4119)
• Denmark
18 Oct 06
you really foun your match then,because me and my partner also made a lot of promises,and i think everybody does in a couple,but when we get mad on several discussions or situation we forget our pacts,because the feelings of the moment are strong,and you don't think anymore that u love the person that is now in front of you offending you,or disagreeing with you..or any other resons for a fight..what you say it's an ideal relationship..i don't know how many of us can trully say they found that
@heartonfire (4119)
• Denmark
18 Oct 06
yes,i knew part of your story from another question i have posted and you answered,i can just say that i am sorry for what u have been through,and i am so glad you finally found your shelter..i hope each one of us can find that kind of love,i know i wish i had one and i don't...but i am sure that someday something will change in my life..i am not yet sure if the re;ationship that i have now will become better or if i will find another one...goodluck in the future also and thank you for your response..i already voted u once for best response so i won't do it again now:)
@rahul_krish (355)
• India
17 Oct 06
ya... but only in the case of true love... in some cases even though the love cant continue throughout lifetime atleast the pain will continue in their life...
@heartonfire (4119)
• Denmark
18 Oct 06
of love?who didn't?but i am too young to say that it lasted for a lifetime:P...in any case,i can say i had the type of relationship with a boy who was saying i am the whole world for him,and he was crying everytime i had to leave because we were from different cities,and he was saying he wants to marry me,and in less than an year he broke up with me with no reason..and i have a boyfriend now,that from the start was not that kind of guy,he doesn't verbally express his feelings too much,but we are still toghether after almost 4 years so...anything is possible:)
@ossie16d (11821)
• Australia
17 Oct 06
Yes I believe it can last a lifetime and after 36 years of married life our love has changed but become stronger. We all change through the years and the main thing is that couples must communicate which will help them move in the same direction.
There are many things that bring about change, children, work, finances and even stress but if you work through these things together then the relationship will only become stronger. :)
@heartonfire (4119)
• Denmark
17 Oct 06
yes,i know..but sometimes the partners are opposite caracthers and that makes the communicating part difficult because of the disagreements
@heartonfire (4119)
• Denmark
17 Oct 06
yes,of course,there is no definition of love,some express it in a way some in other way..the problem is that when there are too many argues love can dissapear in time
@ossie16d (11821)
• Australia
17 Oct 06
If partners are opposite characters then that has always been the case and there would have been a bit of a communication problem. If they had real love to start their relationship, then they can still have real love despite their differences of opinion on some subjects.
@ilse72 (1450)
• United States
16 Oct 06
Yes, it can last a lifetime. Yes, it does grow stronger but it also changes over the years because we also change. Marriage is affected by the events in your life, children, and so many other factors but, if you love each other, you grow with the changes. When my husband isn't here, yes, it feels like something is missing. I love my husband and can't imagine my life without him...even after 34 years of marriage.
@heartonfire (4119)
• Denmark
16 Oct 06
wow,34 years???how old are you if you dont mind me asking?i can;t even imagine where i will be in 34 years..and if u can say that you still love him then u have made the right choice..congratulations
@heartonfire (4119)
• Denmark
16 Oct 06
nice to meet you,i wish you many happy years ahead..and let me tell you ,you are the first woman in her 50's i know,that uses internet and the word lol hihihi kisssss
@clk234 (45)
• United States
17 Oct 06
Love can grow stronger, it takes commitment, common goals, and common courtesy. I was once told that a key to a good marriage is to remember the marriage (or any relationship) is not about one person, not about me, not about what he can do for me; the key is to think, what can I do for him. I am not saying to be subservient, I am just saying to think of the other person.
@heartonfire (4119)
• Denmark
17 Oct 06
yes,i totally agree but when you are like that and always think about the other person,and when you see that he takes it fro granted,and when it comes to him he doesnt do the same,u start thinking why you do it:(
@heartonfire (4119)
• Denmark
19 Oct 06
not a single one:)i think my heart is the hardest to lie to...and caused me lots of troubles also:)
@ishavasyam (1801)
• India
13 Nov 06
Yes.if it is not started as a lust for passion or a bodily pleasure..if it is purely based on the mutual affection & respect, then it will survive the battles of life..it wil be durable..no doubt...
@MisterR (171)
• Netherlands
17 Oct 06
Love grows stronger. It does not stop growing. I know i cannot live without my wife. she is my soulmate. my other half. If she would go(which i never want to happen unless it is together) then i for sure will be more then missing her. Every day I'm glad to have my wife and fall deeper in love with her. A life without her is not possible.
@heartonfire (4119)
• Denmark
18 Oct 06
it seems that you found your true love,..if all of us were that lucky,the world would be a better place i think..goodluck and thanks for sharing it with us
@heartonfire (4119)
• Denmark
18 Oct 06
haha,i hope u will..don't forget us when you grow old and happy:)goodluck in your life
@johnromeyo (186)
• India
18 Oct 06
It depends on the person u love...
but you will never forget the 1st love of your life.
@heartonfire (4119)
• Denmark
18 Oct 06
i did forget the first love of my life..i don't say i can't remember it but another love took place of it and i realise now that the first love was immature and fantasising..i am more realistic now,i think it's better thank being a dreamer and get hurt
@euniceeleanor (5967)
• Singapore
13 Nov 06
it can last a lifetime with the right person. when two people are together for too long, they tend to take each other for granted, so it's good to bring back romance into the relationship, just to tell the other party that 'i do care and i still love you'. and yeah, it could last a lifetime and you can fall in love every single day with the same person!
@euniceeleanor (5967)
• Singapore
13 Nov 06
yes! with all my ex-bf, i just dont bother to do anything and i gradually fell out of love. but now, both of us always think of ways to make each other happy. every day is like the first day we meet..
@rmuxagirl (7548)
• United States
17 Oct 06
I th ink that love can last a lifetime and that it grows stronger. I think you can fall in love with the same person everyday, everytime you look at them you remember how much they mean to you.
@heartonfire (4119)
• Denmark
17 Oct 06
thats logical,but it depends how you mean it in this context
@akhilhere (168)
• India
17 Oct 06
Why cant??There should b no barrier in terms of age for love..Jus open the hands wide..
@heartonfire (4119)
• Denmark
18 Oct 06
well,i think people build walls instead of bridges..that was a quote i think,so true fairytale love is an ideal but how many of us can reach it?
@heartonfire (4119)
• Denmark
18 Oct 06
haha,great answer,i'll mark it as a best response:)and by the way,i agree,i couldnt say it better
