does this means she loes me?
By im_theboss
@im_theboss (384)
India
March 2, 2007 8:30am CST
She's my friend. we have this beautiful relationship for 4-5years. now, yesterday only, while we were talking over phone at 9pm, just before we were about to terminate the conversation, she said, "Thanks". when I asked the reason, she replied, "For making my life beautiful,bye". and then she put down the receiver. I spent the whole night thinking, whether that meant she loves me, or is it just friendship! please help. and please describe why do u think she loves/dont love me. I need your help badly.
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33 responses
@marymarj2002 (1769)
• Philippines
3 Mar 07
I think she likes you. Maybe she can't keep her feelings to herself so she already told you about it. Thanks for making my life beautiful because she likes being with you. And I think her likeness to you develop into deeper emotion. You can ask her again if you meet to be sure.
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@im_theboss (384)
• India
3 Mar 07
if she loves me, then its for sure that she loves me very "deeply". i do like her, but dont love her. i know, if i will deny her proposal, no matter how politely i do it, it will break her heart & of course, it will affect our friendship. she is my best best best friend & i cant afford to lose her. but i want to keep this relationship to friendship only. is there any way out? please help!
@yanjiaren (9031)
•
2 Mar 07
Women, aah we are such an enigma. It can mean anything and it is very difficult to find out directly i know, because you don't want to lose the friendship. I think the best thing is to start a conversation about love and relationships in a roundabout way then see her reaction. I think this is your best bet in determining what her feelings are. If you are both too shy you will never get anywhere. You have to start from somewhere. But be descreat as you don't want to stuff up the friendship if there are no feelings here. Good luck.
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@im_theboss (384)
• India
2 Mar 07
I think she's following ur idea! she keeps discussing with me about love & romantic celeb-couples. I should have added that , I do like her, but I dont think I love her. my only concern is that if she happens to tell me "I love you", then I think, I may not accept & this may affectour friendship. but let me say that she is my BEST FRIEND. and i DONT want to lose her.
@shooie (4984)
• United States
3 Mar 07
Before I was married most of my friends were guys. I had a friend named John and him and I like a lot of things. From singing to reading. We would shop together and go for coffee or dinner or even a play here and there. He made my life beautiful at the time because I knew I could tell him anything or if I needed him he was there. You could do what the one person said and ask her. Does she currently have a boyfriend? Is she currently dating anyone? She may just cherish your friendship like I did my friend Johns.
@im_theboss (384)
• India
3 Mar 07
please focus on what she did. she said me that i make her life beautiful. then suddenly she wished me good night & SHE PUT DOWN THE RECEIVER. it showed that she wanted to say much more than that. now my REAL problem is that I do like her, but dont love her. &i cant just afford to either lose her or hurt her. please help!
@cattleya18 (9)
• Philippines
3 Mar 07
Hi, when your friend replied "For making my Life beautiful, bye" was it in a tone with much affection and love? If you have been friends for 4-5 years you would know if this person has fallen in love with you or is it just a friendly reaction. She must have been thankful for the friendship that you have shared with her and that could be the time that she felt saying it to you to show her appreciation of your good relationship.
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@joyskie23 (174)
• Philippines
2 Mar 07
what you have just describe might means a lot of things.Yes maybe youre right that your friend is already inlove with you and maybe not as she just wanted friendship from you.The only thing you can do to find out is by asking her.If you also like her then dont waste time,tell her how you feel for her and ask her if she loves you too.Dont waste time and effort just go on and show her what you really feel for her you might not know maybe you both feels the same.Hope you end up happy.
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@anilt09 (1)
• India
2 Mar 07
i think she loves u. bcoz as far as i know no girl says "that" to a friend.but wait for a while n absorve her action
bye
@weehihi (132)
• Philippines
3 Mar 07
hehehe could it be that youre in love with her?? hmmm sounds like you r...coz u're so disturbed.. well, your friend's reply means so many things...sometimes you just have to consult your gut feelings on this matter..know how to read actions..maybe she really loves you but only as a friend..you make her life beautiful coz u've been her friend all this time...maybe that's what she meant..but it could also mean that she loves you as more than friends...sooooo maybe you could ask her what she meant when she said that?? hehehe
@ChrissyGirl (135)
• Romania
3 Mar 07
Hey !
I also have a very good frind .. just as you do .. and he`s the closest person to me since we know eachother .. and as a matter of fact .. some time ago .. i told him that i`m very thankful that he`s a part of my life .. and that he`s there no matter what .. and that i love him verry much .. and after a while .. he told me that he wants to be more than a friend for me .. but i was missunderstood .. i love him .. it`s true .. but i love him in an other way .. like a brother .. but not like a lover .. and when i heard that he wants to be with me .. i simply remained speechless .. i realised .. that from that moment on everything would change ..
I told him .. that my love for him is different .. and that i never thought that he could see me in other ways than just a very very good friend .. but he got sad .. and stopped talking to me .. for about 3 months ..
Now .. we`re back .. friends again .. and we talk a lot .. but nothing`s the same .. i always think .. should i or shouldn`t i say this or that .. so he won`t get my affection wrong again .. because i really don`t want him to suffer ..
So .. i think it`s best for you .. to pay very much attention at her .. and at everything she does for you.. the way she talks .. and acts .. and after you`re really shure that she has feelings for you as well .. ask her .. what does she think about your relationship .. if she wants more .. or it`s fine like that ..
But .. no .. i think it`s better for you .. to be you .. and don`t listen to us .. here on mylot.. you know her best .. you know what you feel and what you want to feel .. so just follow your heart and mind ..
I wish you luck .. and i hope she`ll react as you wish to .. take care ..
@retardedrugrat (4791)
• Canada
3 Mar 07
If you're unsure about what she meant by that remark, you need to ask her!
Whats the good in agonizing over it when you could either be safe and happy in the knowledge that she loves or, or safe and happy in your friendship?
Ask her!
@bakumatsu151 (88)
• Philippines
3 Mar 07
I think that your friend loves you for saying what she said, otherwise she would not have said those words. It surely means something. If her feelings for you are just for a friend, then she would have said something casual.
@bkrishnarjun (49)
• India
3 Mar 07
i think if you really like her very much then you should express to her, otherwise might be you loose her,
i mean to say if past 4 year your relationship was preety good mean surely she know all th ethings about very well even you too know all the things..
means both can care each other very well...
so beter express her, atleast after thet you will get clear idea about that..
what she thinks about you
@anuraggoel1981 (47)
• India
3 Mar 07
its very hard to say friend becoz u can never guess whats there in mind of girl one day they might feel very close and affectionate by there talk but another day they might sound as they dont care bout u ya may be that may not be ur case but may be girl has something like respect for u
@jboyblinks (158)
• Nigeria
3 Mar 07
hello thanks yes i thinks she love love you but she dont want you toknow that she really love you know because women they don,t want a man to know dey first love you if u call agin tell her you love her and tell her this wihes if she say she like it try to make her happy more and she wull tell you the truht fact.
@shaz6611 (951)
• Australia
3 Mar 07
Trying to analyze how one feels can lead to disaster. She obviously thinks the world of you as you do of her, but is it 'love?' only one person can answer that and that is your friend. From what you have said I take it that you do not want a romantic relationship with her, and for that reason I would tread very carefully if you don't want to spoil the relationship you have with her now. I would maybe hint to her that you have met someone you are interested in and see what her reaction is and perhaps tell her how much you value your friendship with her. In this way you are telling her in a very subtle way that your feelings for her are not romantic.
Hope it all works out well
@simesc (248)
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3 Mar 07
This is a difficult one as women are far more expresive about their feelings and men are very bad at reading them.
It sounds as if she does have major feelings for you.
But if you are wrong and she meant it as a friend and not a girlfriend, then you could make problems for your friendship.
It is best to talk to her more about it.
Do not rush in and tell her that you love her. It could ruin your friendship
@Mollyjo (266)
• United States
3 Mar 07
When it comes to women they are very complex ceatures, I know I am one of them! Any way depending on what the conversation was about, what it over advice she was asking or was it just to see how you each were? If it is over just to see how you each were then Yes it could very well mean that she is falling in love with you. The best way to know is just to simply ask her? I know this is a hard task for a guy to do! Ladies are just like you just with more ideas on a subject then a man. You could tell her how it make you feel and that you was wondering about if she loved you or not. Ladies like to hear stories about guys feelings especially good ones! I have been married to my husband for almost 14 years now and I still love to ask about how he felt about me when we first started dating! We "Love" that warm feeling that you guys can give us! I can tell you that since this was a "Warm" feeling moment that she properly has some down deep feelings for you but, you will never know unless you ask! If you really feel the same about her don't let her pass you by! Especially since you have been friends for so long, you have already builded a great bond that most newly married couples take years to perfect! Sometimes your real love can be right in front of you and when you do realize it, it is too late. Don't let that happen to you! Call her or go by and see her!
@sandeep_2991984 (675)
• India
3 Mar 07
this can be looked in two ways. one is that she loves you or the other is that she think u r his best friend and in your company she feels comfortable and her life has become more beautiful than ever. but i think she loves you because an indian girl only say when she is in love
@jencai (3412)
• Philippines
3 Mar 07
i'll be saying 'SHE'S INLOVE WITH YOU', IT'S just that she cant do the first move, obviously she's a girl waiting for man like you to came into her life...
It sounds she's happy living with you..
You make her life beautiful right?
So, come to think of it, when you're gone, she will feel bad..
I'm sure..
So go... Do what you had to TO DO.. before it's TOO LATE.
@sevenmao (9)
• China
3 Mar 07
i think she is likely fall love with you ,if so ,pls cherish her ,
if so ,pls do cherish her also ,for she has sincerely regarded you a best friend of her.
She will trust in you more ,..and better ...