Long distance Love affair... Last long?

I salute all those who still ended up together even after being away from each other for quite a long time. I have a friend who studied and worked in Japan for several years. His boyfriend would just visit her maybe once or twice in a year. But despite that, they still ended up being together. But I also have another friend who had a long distance relationship but after just a few months, they separated. It really depends on how the two people concerned can stand the test of time and distance. Others survive...some wouldn't last for months or even weeks. It's a great challenge to the relationship!

All relationships are difficult and hard. Long distance relationships are no exceptions. We cope with the same issues, trust, love, honesty and such. But we are tested more on the trust , communication , patience and endurance which is vital in these relationships. long distance relationships is harder because we are asked to deal with the trust issue without enough concrete evidence at the start. Most people need to be able to spend time and get to know his or her friends before he/she can say that ok they're safe. but in LDR, you need to trust your insticts. You need to give him/her the benefit of the doubt and you need to fully trust that person without need of physical evidence at the start. LDR are also harder because you dont get to do what most couples do when together. The physical intimacy is not always available. What they have is the communication that is essential in sharing that intimacy, those feelings that could have been shown by a kiss or a hug are now said and talked about. Its harder because contants communication is what will help LDR survive. Its important to keep in touch and be together if not physically but in thoughts and words. Its harder to have wants yet know your limitations that you are just far away and then you have to wait. You need to learn to be patient. you learn patience more than you can imagine. You get to understand that everything isnt black and white and it all needs to be talked about especially since you are far away. Long distance relationship is certainly expensive. you cant imagien how much my husband used to spend on phone calls and text messages. It was a bill enough to pay a whole trip to canada and philppines i think:)

They are never a permanant solution, only a temperary fix (hopefully). If the person I loved lived far away I would do what it took to make the relationship work. At some point someone is either going to have th emove to be together (physically) or break it off though. It can be quite taxing as you usually have to rely more on communication verse physical affection.

I don't favour long distance relationships. Even if i possess one, i would like to turn it into a close relationship as soon as possible else it would be too late to carry on with the relationship. I consider it as a waste of time, effort and money. I have experienced a long distance relationship which ended up after 3 years but we could not see each other even once in 3 years.. I met a girl online, about 5 years back. We had a nice chat and we continued to chat on alternate days for about one month. We started talking on phone. We exchanged our pics and did like each other. I even proposed her after 2 months or so and she accepted my proposal after another month. We went away nicely. But unfortunately couldn't meet each other ever. We loved each other(as i hope) and everytime i could think of meeting her(we lived in different cities) some or the other thing happened which won't allow us to meet. Situations were turning against us.Then after 2 years or so, some incident happened with her due to which our relation started deteriorating. She was not allowed to talk to boys. And i kept on asking her for time so that i can come over to her place to see her. But unfortunately we ended up and i still don't know the reason..WHY?. So as far as i m concerned, i used to believe in long-distance relationships, but i am afraid to take any chances now. I have seen a 4 year close relationship ending up in 4 months just because they got separted after 4 years. So you really can't belive.. Whats gonna happen?

i've been in a long distance relationship before. No doubt it was very hard, especially with the time difference. i have no idea how i survived that, but i did. drove me nuts at times and made me cry too. but there are many means to keep in touch; telephone, email, IMs, digi cam..etc. i missed him a lot, every single second and wish i could see him or for him to be physically there with me, whenever i was sad or happy. you need to have a solid trust, as you're not able to see what your other half is doing. And you need to have lots of faith, enough to not make you give up on your relationship. but i believe, in the end, love is what that holds you together. if two people really love each other, no matter how far they apart they are, they'll be able to go thru the relationship. love knows no boundaries;).

I agree that having a long distance relationship is really hard and expensive but for me it is worth it because you are doing this for the one you love. I am presently in this situation right now. I went to the different city after I graduated to college and I left him 2 months ago.. However, even we are in the long distance relationship we make sure that our relationship still work. We are always have a communication everyday. We text, call, email, and chat everyday even I am at my work. For me everything is possible as long as you want to make it possible. If you really love that person no matter how far he/she is with you, you will do everything or anything just to have a communication with him/her.

i am now on long distance realtionship with my bf, we met online and we continue communicating by chat or by phone. Because he lives in the US and im in the Philippines i find it quiet hard to deal with my feelings of loneliness everytime i miss him,we talk almost everyday through chat but if theres a time that our schedules becomes conflict to see each other online, i always make it a point that i made a short phone call during my break at work,i also leave an email for him to read. im happy with the relationship that we had, i can never imagine myself without him. it really needs more effort and patience, but just keeping the love,trust, respect and faith to each other is enough to keep this relationship going. one more thing we put God as the center of our relationship. to answer the question yes ..it really worth. by the way we almost talking for more than a year now, and by next month he plans for a trip here. Im so excited to meet my man in person.by the way were already engaged..dont be afraid to have an LDR it really worth.

yes its having too much expenses n time taking. i m having expering of 1 year affair n i found it is the best way to maintain relation.

hi..i think if you really love each other it's worth it to spend much time, money, effort and emotions...you don't have to mind how much you spend into it just to have communication to your partner...it's not the distance but your strong faith in your love will make your relationship lasts forever...