should i let my man to go out with his friends?
By karisia
@karisia (149)
Romania
231 responses
@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
16 Oct 06
Yes, But make him understand in the beginning that if he can do it so can you and get up a group of girls and family to spend time with while he is at his friends. And tell him you need to know in advance so you can shedule the same time for you and your friends.. But always make sure they are enough time for each other too.. Friends are important not as important as you should be so make sure they aren't to MANY times out with the boys..
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@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
17 Oct 06
Your afarid he will cheat on you right? Then ask him to take you out with his friends a few times see what they do. I'm sure if your man loves you and is commited to you then he will not cheat on you. But if he starts to fell suficated and smothered then he will rethink the relationship and there would be a bigger chance of him cheating. Just because the other woman lets him feel his freedom. As I pointed out before you need to start having a girls or friends night out too. Couples need this time apart. Just like when your married you need some space.not alot but some. Or you will choke out a loving relationship.
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@Lshauna1 (216)
• United States
17 Oct 06
Yes I am sure the average man is a cheater you very rarely find a real man that do not cheat in this world . They either want to hang out with their friend and then they go to strip clubs or to bars.
But a older man that is different they might be done with their cheating days. But some never quit.
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@heartonfire (4119)
• Denmark
17 Oct 06
i totally agre with you..if he doesn;t want you there he has a good reason for it..and anyway,when guys go out in groups,we all know what their interests are..;)
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@Lauraleigh99 (4718)
• United States
16 Oct 06
Just let him have fun and trust him. Go out with your friends when he is out with his
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@Lauraleigh99 (4718)
• United States
17 Oct 06
You need to trust him. if you can't trust him you should not be with him
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@indiandevil (2410)
• Canada
15 Oct 06
It depends does he do this every night of the week? Or just now and then.
If it is just once in awhile why not? What harm could it do? All couples need a break sometimes...theres times my boyfriend goes out drinking with his friends, but he always comes home and he still ahs his days with me
@sbeauty (5865)
• United States
18 Oct 06
Your question makes it sound like you're trying to control him. If you have a good, solid relationship, him having friends shouldn't give you problems. In fact, both you and your man both need time with friends. It really depends how often he wants to do this. If you aren't comfortable with the amount of time he wants to spend with friends, then maybe you should find a new man.
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@jacinda1977 (11)
• United States
19 Oct 06
Yes, occasionally he should be allowed to go out with his buddies. He needs other men around him he can identify with. But he needs also to take you with him on occasion. That way you can be together and be able to do things together. But there is sometimes, a man needs his space. And there are times that you need some space. When he goes out with his friends without you, just consider it "me" time. Because quite frankly, men are pains in the butt. And Men say the same thing about women.
@moneymoney (789)
• India
20 Oct 06
you are wrong. Not everyone are like that. I don't mind taking my girlfriend to parties. Though I don't drink and smoke, We go to parties and sometimes she goes without me. I don't fuss over that. you should learn to respect others feelings.
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
17 Oct 06
I don't see a problem with it. No reason to keep him away from his friend and make him resent you. Why don't you find something to do while he is out with his friends? Join a club, find an online game to play or go out with yoru friends.
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@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
18 Oct 06
My fiance and I have activites that don't involve each other. He goes off with his friends and I do the same. Not a big deal. It is very health ot have friends and other things to do. You need your own life away from him. If you can't trust him while he is out, then maybe you shouldn't be with him.
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
19 Oct 06
Me too. I hope we all helped her and if not, that she posts again.
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@nickel1191 (2790)
• India
20 Oct 06
if he has to go alone let him go....or else go with him.
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@cuddlebug79705 (2003)
• United States
17 Oct 06
I think you should each have your own time with your own friends, but he shouldn't go every night. Just because you two are married doesn't mean that you are always together all the time. It just means that you are sharing life with each other.
@heartonfire (4119)
• Denmark
17 Oct 06
seems like nobody wants to comment a possible cheating situation that might come along with the freedom,me for one hand,when i trusted and gave him freedom,he cheated..so...what is better to do then?...
@heartonfire (4119)
• Denmark
17 Oct 06
and if he has the freedom and can't resist to temptations is better?or better said,in your opinion,u have to let him do what he feels like doing if you don't wanna lose him..i say that we both have to compromise to make it work..
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@cuddlebug79705 (2003)
• United States
17 Oct 06
But if you keep him locked up it will surly drive him away.
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@juls146 (963)
• India
20 Oct 06
aft reading all ur replies one thing am sure..u doubt ur hubby a lot..doubting ur partner is wen ur relationship s base is weak..y dont u both discuss ..u can know why he is doin this...may b 'cox u doubt him in every angle he s fed up and going out for relaxation...we all have our own space..being with ur partner 24/7 is not good..u both should have ur own life ...spend time with ur friends..come back and share ur news with him..cummunication is the 1st thing u should have in ur repaltion...communication gap means "THE END"..never try to creat communication gap with ur patner...
1st thing is u sit and share ur worries and say u r sad and need him for sometime to heal..dont go with his friend instead we both will go out n spend time..y dont u both go for a holiday for 3-4 days...
anyway, speak to ur hubby and reply... am waiting for ur reply...tak care, chill out..
@creed9090 (17)
• United States
20 Oct 06
I agree it depends on if he's going out every night and leaving you at home, or he always goes out and never takes you anywhere. You can have a night out designated for just the two of you and every one in a while he can take you with.
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@sirensanssmile (3764)
• Netherlands
26 Oct 06
It's not stupid. She is just asking for advise. If she knew, she wouldn't have asked. Can't you be nice?
@SunnyDays (1070)
• Bahamas
18 Oct 06
Of course you should as l,ong as it doesn't happen every day and he comes back before the morning dawwns and you don't have to sit at home and wait on him ...Go out or meet friends yourself ...
I think in a relationship people should give each other some space
@SunnyDays (1070)
• Bahamas
18 Oct 06
3 times in ONE weekend ? Did you ask him why he is going out alone three times ?
@sunrisekn (1466)
• United States
17 Oct 06
Why do you have to stay home and wait on him? Go out too!!! Even if you don't have any friends that can go with you that particular night, go by yourself. Why does he have to have all the fun?
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@sunrisekn (1466)
• United States
18 Oct 06
Why not go out by yourself? My hubby used to go out with his friends when we were dating, and I was bound and determined to not let him have all the fun, so I would go to a book store and look at the books or to the movies. Sometimes I would rent a couple movies and just stay home, but I made sure he knew that I was staying home by choice.
@canthelpbutlikeit (228)
• United States
17 Oct 06
You should let him go out. you should go out too. dont let him have all the fun
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@canthelpbutlikeit (228)
• United States
22 Oct 06
Okay well lets see, yeah its not fun waiting on him at home, but if you dont give your man some space he may get boring to you and you might dump him, both of you guys need to get away from eachother sometime.
@bigedshult1 (1613)
• United States
17 Oct 06
yes some of the time men knead to do something with there Friend by them self don't you go out some time with your girl Friend with out him so what is the deferent of you going with out him?
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@heartonfire (4119)
• Denmark
14 Nov 06
you know,when you love somebody,you could make a little effort to bare with his friends also from time to time,so he is happy and you are happy too
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@ladyCJ (19)
• United States
14 Nov 06
Are these single friends? Even though men can think for themselves they sometimes get caught up with whatever their friends are doing(Be cautious)! Find something to do when he is out, don't sit home and wait to many times,because you will start to resent him if it is a weekly routine. How often do the 2 of you go out together?
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