Is It Wrong To Walk Away And Cut Ties Completely?
@browneyedgirl (1264)
United States
March 2, 2007 2:16pm CST
Is it wrong to walk away and cut ties completely when someone close has deliberately done things to hurt and sabbotage you? When you know that it will only happen again and again, as has happened before? When there are children or grandchildren involved? Has anyone else gone through this?
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@maribel1218 (3085)
• Philippines
6 Mar 07
I think it is just proper to cut ties temporarily until the wound was healed by time.
I experienced that several times sometimes it is painful to accept things that come along our way specially it is a kin but it is reality and we have to deal with it bravely.
I myself done that cut the ties temporarily let time passes by and cool down everything until all things back to normal for you are relatives no matter how you avoid each other you will definetely see each other but the good part when time heals the wound then you will cross again make an eye contact and you can forget what had happened and start a new chapter again but this time you must be very careful of your moves.
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@browneyedgirl (1264)
• United States
9 Mar 07
Unfortunately, it doesn't work out that way sometimes.
@sarah22 (3979)
• United States
7 Mar 07
yes, i have and you know what. i am happier and my life is good. i will never go back and i dont see them or talk with them. if it hurts you to the point of no return, why stick with it. lifes to short, move on and enjoy life to your fullest.
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
9 Mar 07
I see that forgiveness is becoming a dying art. All of us have been in situations where we ourselves have messed up big time and wanted a second, third, and fourth chance.
I have been on both sides of this situation and I can tell you that it is much better to forgive, talk things over and reconcile.
It is not up to us to judge whether or not someone did something purposely to her us. We would not want anyone to rush to judgement about us. I have a friend now, she has hurt me several times to the point where I never wanted to speak to her again. But, I realize that I have hurt her too. There is no perfect relationship. You grow and learn as you make mistakes.
The reason that I stick with this friendship is because the last real close friend left and never looked back. I learned a valuable lesson from that. Rejection hurts, and love can be enough if you give it a chance.
@browneyedgirl (1264)
• United States
9 Mar 07
I don't mean to be rude, but when you have to pull a knife out of your back every time you turn around, and it has the same fingerprints on it, it's time to get on down the road in my opinion. Some things look much better in a rearview mirror.
@margieanneart (26423)
• United States
4 Mar 07
I have been though this. When the person is causing you mental or physical pain, and talking won't help, it's time to cut the ties and leave. It's rough, but abuse is worse. And harboring anger, will make it even worse.
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@browneyedgirl (1264)
• United States
6 Mar 07
I agree with you; the anger is even worse-especially when that person knows you don't want to "retaliate" and takes advantage of the fact.
@nrnotrare (631)
• United States
2 Mar 07
Hello browneyedgirl....
It is never wrong to protect yourself. Do whatever you feel you need to do.
My fist marriage was a disaster, my daughter tells me now that she knows I did the right thing, both for myself and her.
Tom
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@browneyedgirl (1264)
• United States
7 Mar 07
Very true! Some "losses" are actually wins in the long-run.
@recycledgoth (9894)
•
2 Mar 07
It is never wrong to walk away from someone who continually hurts you. I agonised for years before I left my ex husband, and it hurt a lot, but I don't regret it for a moment as I knew it was the right thing to do.
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@Dreamwizard (13)
• United States
6 Mar 07
NO! It is best to get out of a bad situation immediately as they will only esculate. You can still keep contact with those you want to in secret and private ways that will not reveal where you are if that is necessary and desired. Dreamwizard
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