Till when should parents have control over their children ?
By maudlin
@maudlin (125)
India
7 responses
@Lady_Godiva (51)
• United States
2 Mar 07
Untill the child is 18 they have to listen to their parents but I wouldn't call that control. I don't think parents should CONTROL their kids at all. There is a difference between control and good parenting. Keeping your kids safe by setting rules and restrictions are great because you are doing it for the safety of your child. I still would not call it control.
Control is to strong of a word. When I hear the word control, I think of a bad thing. Kids need to learn to make their own decisions and us, as the parents, are there to show them the way to do so. I am not saying that kids should be able to do whatever they want but they should be able to do some of the things they want without worrying wether or not Mommy and Daddy are gonna yell at them for it.
Kids have the right to choose just like adults do. All I would do to make sure my child isn't going to go run and join a gang is to set common boundries life bed times, curfews, chores, and so on to show responsibility. If they prove responsible, they should have a reward of doing what they want to do.
@BellasmamaTiff (2544)
• United States
2 Mar 07
I feel that parents should have control of their children until age 18 or 21. Whichever one happens to be when full maturity is reached. If the child can support himself financially, emotionally and completely at age 18, so be it. But, I am 22, and just became self sufficient!
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@loved1 (5328)
• United States
2 Mar 07
I can't be responsible for something or someone I have no control over. The fact of the matter is, if my child gets himself into trouble, I am responsible. I think good parents teach their children how to be responsible by allowing them to have control over small matters first, and make more important decisions as they get older. Ultimately, I will have some control over my children until they are 18 or as long as they live under my roof.
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@satya1882 (17)
• India
6 Mar 07
have control over ones childern is must until the last because for a parent the child is always a baby wether he is 2yrs or he is 22yrs. The fact that matters is the bond between them.
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@mirajasmine (6)
• India
16 Mar 07
I feel that, for a boy, parents should have control on them till the age of 15/17. For a girl, they should have control on them till she is married
@maddy7 (7)
• India
9 Mar 07
according to me parents should have control over their children till their life ends.because parents are the only people who dont think bad to u would not allow anything bad happening to u and also they very experinced towards life and would always guide in a good track towards your life.
@mainman195 (186)
• United States
3 Mar 07
Parents have a responsibility to oversee their children's lives as long as the parent remains the primary support of the child. The parent can get into legal trouble if the child gets into trouble if they are still legally providing for the child. I remained somewhat in charge of my children until they completed college. I paid for the vast majority of their college expenses. So, I expected them to follow the rules.
I gave them increasing autonomy from about 15 on, but not total freedom. They had curfews and forbidden things to do and places to go. They respected this. Once they graduated college and started careers and got married, I backed out of their lives unless invited.
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