Communiction skills - Do you talk or listen more?

I think youre right for the most part, but I find it depends on whom I'm talking to. With my husband, I tend to talk more, and I feel bad to say but I'm a crappy listener. However, with my friends, I am the one they all come to when they have a problem, so I must be a good listener.

Listening is a great skill and i am learning that. I post less of my own discussions and post loads of responses lol. But that is because i really want to take time in understanding other's point of view. It is vital for us to come out of our box and understand what others are a bout. I may rattle on but all my friends have said i am a good listenenr because i always help them woith their problems and i am very patient. May God bless us all with this kind of patience.

I have learnt that you find out things you least expect when you actually listen and pay attention to what the other person is saying. So thats what I follow. I only speak up when no one else has anything to say. I used to often shoot my mouth without the thoughts even reaching my brain and regret saying these things later. So i have learnt hte hard way.

Personally I like to listen more. I like to talk also, but it depends on situation. I like to talk after listening to people. Like if we are talking on some subject I would like to listen first to other people, than I like to talk my opinion. Thats way I can know what other people think about a particular subject and also can learn things during listening. And when I keep my opinion after listening other people I can talk more effectively.

My own quote is "Listening is learning". I love to learn, so I'm an avid listener. I work in a nursing home, and these little old people love to talk and remember when. So, I let them. Even if they tell the same story over and over, it feels good for them to be able to tell it. I am helping them to feel good, only by listening! Your quote does make sense to me, and I do agree with you that more is achieved through listening than speaking.

I have a feeling i'm more of a speaker sometimes, becuase i feel so flattered when people take an interest in me and ask about me that i tend to go off on one! I think the quote probably wouldn't apply in those situations, as i've a feeling it's more geared towards arguments, rather than general conversation.

That is a great quote!! I strongly believe in it & practice it everyday. I think that is a key quote for all managers. We need to listen & give specific "to the point" answers otherwise we would be one of the 'yappers' in the meetings :)

I agree with what David Schwartz said. It is true because people who listen has gained something from outside sources, may it be information, stories or other people's experiences. They have learned things through listening. Aside from that, you may be able to know the outer side of your individuality which are the environment and the people. When you listen, you gain something from outside sources. You ned not to release or give anything that comes from you to the source of what or who you're listening into. While on talking, you give or share something you only know or perceive. Though you listen a bit, still, the source of talking comes from you. The result of this, is you showed a part of yourself to others. It is also a good thing but growing is less in that phase. As for me, I'm a listener and a talker hand in hand. For me, it should be on equal footing.

About me,I admit that I have less comunication skills for talking but have powerful listening skills. Listening good is to pay more attention to the other person while talking,share his/her thought and don't make them feel that you got bored from listening. Sometimes I feel like I'm doing great about talking but I prefer listening more.

I think its better to listen more, how would you know what to say in the conversation, if your haven't listened to anything that the person talking to you was saying? how can you really give a good argument if you dont listen long enough. Yes i do believe that more is achieved and learned through listening than talking thats why in school, they encourage the students to listen more before raising their hands or answering or giving comments.

I think that its better to listen first when the other party is speaking and after they have ended we should start to argue about what they have said. If u look at the manners of management you will feel that good managers or anyone person do it. Because if we will not listen them carefully and aruge during their speach we will not be able to complete understand what they have said. So i think listening is better than speaking when other party is going to deliver their point of view. Hope you will also agree....

It's an interesting question that you have posted. Reminds me of an old Indian saying "God has given you two ears and one mouth for a good reason." I have myself experienced the change that you are talking about that I am better able to solve problems in work and personal life by listening more often than I used to during my formative years. There is also a subtle refining that I have done once I understood the difference between hearing and listening. These days I try to listen rather than hear the others. That way I can relate better to what the other person is saying and am able to respond better. Cheers! Ram

I share this thought, i listen more to understand more. I feel that listening more is important.

This quote definitely makes sense to me. I have to admit that recently I have been working on listening more and talking less. I find that when you are constantly preparing what to say next, you speak without actually hearing what the other person is saying. This can lead to arguments or getting worked up. It is important to try to understand the other person's point of view. More times than not, you will find that you might even feel the same way or agree to some degree. When we listen to what the other person is saying, I think that we might feel less threatened or needing to defend ourselves if we think that someone is trying to attack us. Henry Ford said, "If there is any one secret of success, it lies in the ability to get the other person's point of view and see things from that person's angle as well as from your own."

I really appreciate this idea as it is expressed. So who is David Schwartz? I might have to find something else he has written. I am a good listener, but I am also fairly articulate when I talk. I also like the idea "Dear Lord, make my words sweet and tender, for tomorrow I may have to eat them." Let's think about it.

Most of my friends tell me that I am a good listener. They often meet me when they have problems. I let them do most of the talking, then I just console them and give them advice when they ask for it. But with my boyfriend, that is another story. I tend to talk more. I can be such a nag sometimes. Lol!

I find that listening is more emportant than talking. You can find out a lot about a person if you sit there and listen. I am a firm believer that God gave me two e3ars and one mouth for a reason... To listen and think and digest what was said before speaking.

I tend to listen more than talk, especially when talking with a group of friends and with my husband. Sometimes when I talk to my husband he walks away LOL

i forgot to add that i hate being monopoloist and just these two qualities cant make anyone wiser or big or small it depends alot on wat u thinkin,listening and talkin

well iam both or say a mixture os both the qualities i love to hear people and iam a very active and keen listener and a very gud reciprocrater or u can say talkitive coz for me just listening is not enuf untill adnd unless we talk n share our thoughts equally.