Friendship Help!

@cripfemme (7698)
United States
March 2, 2007 11:19pm CST
My best friend from childhood and adolescence, who stopped talking to me when I was 19. On the day, I told her I was bi. After she told me everthing was fine and that she would call me the next day. I thought she was being homophobic and would get over it, but she never did. I haven't talked to her in 11 years until she messaged me on my newly put up Myspace page today where the message. "I have no idea what to say to you." What am I supposed to do? Advice needed!
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
29 Jun 07
If you still want to have a friendship with her, you should write her back and tell her to say whatever she feels. This kind of announcement can come as a shock to some people and they may need time to deal with it. It doesn't mean that they are homophobic or anything like that. There are some friends and even relatives that I have found on Myspace and it is cool. This is a good way to open the lines of communication again, without being nervous. There are a lot of Bi people on Myspace. In fact I have found out about some friends being that way on Myspace. People tend to feel comfortable being their true selves on that site and this can sometimes be pretty cool.
• United States
20 Jun 07
It all depends on how you feel now. If you feel that she abanded you, tell her. If you feel that she is trying to understand and you want to give her another chance, then tell her. Me, I wouldn't talk to her if I were you, but I am not that very forgiving when a "friend" hurts me. But that' me. Go with what your heart tells you and you won't go wrong.
• United States
6 Mar 07
liperoterachel is right in her response. I'm thinking your friend did not know what to say & was probably at such a loss for words, but she still wants to try to restart the friendship. Like liperoterachel said, say hello to her, & maybe even ask how she's doing.
@fay511 (43)
• United States
26 Mar 07
Have you contacted her yet? What was her response? If not I guess I'd have to agree with everyone else, start off with "Hi" and "How are you doing?". See if she responds to that. Maybe that will break the ice as they so. I hope so for your sake. It's tough to lose a friend. Wishing you the best.