Values, honesty, integrity,

Sadly I have to agree with you. Nothing seems to matter anymore other than instant gratification and the pursue of happiness regardless of how people s actions affect others. It seems to be that people in general are focused on themselves only - what they want, how they want it and they want it now. There is nothing wrong with pursuing what we want, except for the fact that we need to take in consideration our values - will I really feel good about myself if I do this... can i live with this... - .People need to remember that all their actions have impact in others and that that impact can be very negative sometimes, and more than that they need to care about how their actions impact others. I have seen all - or about all - marriage seems to make no difference when someone is attracted to someone else, friends seem to make no difference when it comes to people to get what they want, colleagues seem to make no difference when it comes to plow ahead stepping over everyone just to reach a goal that in the end does not even matter... family seems to have lost its value... True, I am generalizing a bit, but I am not too far off things like this are happening every day and people seem to accept it as normal - until it happens to them.. then its another story ....

When I look beneath the surface of the question, it seems to me that we have gradually created a system of "values" (perhaps originally with GOOD intentions) that slowly is requiring us to substitute "objects" for "people." We go in pursuit of a "better standard of living," which we have become convinced means a larger house, a newer car, expensive clothes, a bigger TV. To get them, we must work more. Which means we have less TIME. Time, we used to spend connecting with people. So in an effort to "re-connect," we try to find ways to save time. Which is done through more OBEJCTS, which we must BUY, so we have to WORK more, which actually leads to more disconnection, and MORE objects and FEWER people. I think we have-- and continue to-- "misplace" what is "valuable" in life. If the highest status was determined by "how nice our friends are" instead of "how modern our house is," the world would look very different from how it is today.

yes I think people are becoming so self self self and money seems to rule all the decisions, I think some people should look at what really is of high value...the people around you.

i do agree with you on this..... values, honesty, integrity, sincerity and truthfulness all are gone from our daily practices..... but my parents raised us in very disciplined manner and i always try to keep these things in my every act, i strongly believe in self satisfaction and self esteem for which once have to be pure and bear all the qualities stated above......

Don't get me wrong but I strive to advance my family with the material things they need and want in life. They do not get the best of things nor do they get everything they mention either. I will only make sure these things happen if they will show honesty, respect, integrity, and values around me. I will not make sure they have these things if they cannot show they deserve these things from me. I think that alot of society does not live by these values any longer and it is very sad. I think it is okay to want "some" material things, but love, honesty and respect should come first.

I was brought up with values. My dad and mom instilled in us the golden rule which is don't do to others that you wouldn't want done to you. They lived by it and ensured that we did the same thing. Lying was unacceptable in our household. If we did something we weren't supposed to as much as we were afraid of the consequsences from mom and dad we were more afraid of what would happen if we lied and they found out. Which they did. So they instilled in us the responsiblity of answering for our own actions. I come from a family of ten and everyone of us still have that today. Thanks to mom and dad. Integrity was also a big issue in our house. I remember one day we went to a store and the gal at the register under charged us for a rug. Well, when mom got out to the car she got in the car and looked at the receipt and found the error. We went back into the store to the gal that had checked her out and mom called attention to the error and gave her the rest of what she should of been charged. The gal thanked her and explained to her that if her drawer had come up short she would have had to pay the difference. It was a ten dollar error. My mom has the highest standards and her integrity is beyond reproach.

They have more meaning today then ever in this high paced market driven world.

I still think they have great meaning today. Perhaps there are many people forgot about the true values, forgot about the virtue, but as long as we believe in them, we can practise them, and share with the friends around us, and keep spreading around. It doesn't matter how others think and view these, coz we have no controls on everyone else. But we can do it by ourselves. I still think we should build and keep these good values, no matter how the world will be.

I apprehend u are recovering from a knee jerk. All these were there,also present, and will be in the future. We just live on these, and we should have values, be honest and integrity is our soulmate. But these are not to be shown or showcased, as the case may be.Ask yourself, you will find answers, and that will make you confident against dishonests,immorals.