Have you ever had a friend that you love but wanna cut loose?

@sharone74 (4837)
United States
March 3, 2007 1:47pm CST
I do. My best friend is a Homosexual white male who is HIV positive and I think that it is possible that such long term exposure to the virus(17 or 18 years) may have flAsh fried his brain! Don't get me wrong I adore my best friend it is just painful to see him as poorly off as he is spiritually and emotionally simply so far gone. It is even worse when you take into the accounting that he was a High Scool English teacher and smart as a whip previous to receiveing the infection I keep promising myself that if he keeps acting up I will cut him loose. Even though we have been through a little bit of everything, I am one who cherishes the friends that she has because they are so few and far between. He is forgetting things, he talks without thinking about who he's talking to and about what or whom. He borrows things never returns them (all friends do that) even though he promises the return of the item the following day or with in a week, I never see it again. I don't mean to sound petty, but he's beginning to act like a little kid. I went to sleep once recently when he was over and when I woke up my house was full of smoke, he was sound asleep on the couch tv blaring never smelled a thing though the pot that he had used to make his Top Ramen soup was on fire when I ran into the kitchen! I have got to find a way to let go, but I will miss him terribly!!!!! How do I let loose of one of my bestes buddies?
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sjohnson628
@sjohnson628 (3197)
• United States
3 Mar 07
Wow I have never heard of HIV causing this effect on someone...Could it be the medication or do you realy think that it is the virus itself? Yes this is a hard decision to make but nearly starting a fire is a good reason to finally cut him loose as a friend. Maybe try just cutting some ties at first (perhaps not having him over to your house) but keeping in touch with him via the internet or phone. This is a sad and hard situation to have to make. I hope you get much feed back and many goos suggestions on how to resolve this.
sjohnson628
@sjohnson628 (3197)
• United States
3 Mar 07
***goos=good :)
missyd79
@missyd79 (3438)
• United States
8 Mar 07
i just came to ends with my dearest longest friend. i was friends with her for 17 years. she use to babysit my son and like 2 weeks ago right when i first starting getting sick with mono, my boyfriend picked up my son from her house and told him that if his nose was running tomorrow not to send him to her. so i called her and i asked her if she did not want to babysit him anymore and she is like he is sick and i do not want to get sick. i am like he has allergies he is not sick and she said well he didn't do anything today but lay around (while i was on the phone with her, he was running around the house like a kid with a sugar high) and then she precided to tell me that she was sick of me hanging around her house when i picked my son up, here i thought we were friends and that we could chat for a couple minutes instead of me just coming to pick him up and leave, guess i was wrong there. then she also tells me that after she has her baby she doesn't know if she wants to babysit. when she first got pregnant i asked her if she was still going to babysit or not, and if she wasn't sure to let me know as soon as possible (she is due in may) and when she told me that i was like how long where you thinking about this because it could just have happened over night and she was like no i have been thinking about it for a couple weeks now. i just wish she could have told me sooner. so after a 17 year friendship it is over because of her lack of communication to me.