Why do we want get married?
By KelvinChan
@KelvinChan (76)
Singapore
March 3, 2007 8:20pm CST
We see a lot of happy and not so happy marriages among our friends or relatives. One of the important reason could be both partners have different reasons for getting married.
I feel that both partners must have a very clear idea WHY they want to get married. It will be an ideal marriage if both partners have the same reason for getting married.
Why do we want to get married then? What are your views?
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5 responses
@shevamp (120)
• Philippines
4 Mar 07
i am 33, a single mom, have a boyfriend (been steady for three months now) who has expressed his intentions of building a family with me someday. now here are my two cents.
ideally i believe, that partners should get married for no other reason than LOVE. marriage is a union, and love is supposed to be its foundation. however, nowadays, people choose to marry for some other reasons.
in my case, i have two main reasons why i might consider getting married if the opportunity presents itself:
1) for my 5-year old son to have a father he can call his own and grow up with a "normal" family that has a mom and dad and maybe someday a sister or a brother with his new dad;
2) for me to have someone to grow old with.
nevertheless, i would never marry for mainly the two above reasons. I have to fall in love and that person must love and accept me and my son as well.
i asked my boyfriend his thoughts too on marriage, since he has told me of his plans of marrying me in the near future. his reason is becoz he is tired of being single (he's 35, btw) and that he longs to have his own family to care for and like me, a wife to grow old with, and children to play with. and yes, again just like me, he too believes love as the reason to marry someone, above anything else, for he didn't reach 35 being single to not take settling down that seriously.
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@KelvinChan (76)
• Singapore
4 Mar 07
You have very good reasons to get married :-)
I share the same reasons as you if I am in your shoes. I attended a marriage preparation course with my wife before I get married. The facilitator wanted the group(about 6 couples)to write down what are the intangible reasons for marrying our partner. The tangible things will fade away with time like our physical body but the inner beauty will most likely stay like an honest and upright person.
LOVE is by far the most powerful positive force in this universe to bring people together.
I believed you will have a good marriage with a strong love for each other.
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@june24 (26)
• Canada
7 Mar 07
The reason I want to get married is because it is the command of God. I want God to be a part of our relationship. Through marriage, you invite God to be the center of your relationship.
@KelvinChan (76)
• Singapore
7 Mar 07
Bravo! You wish to lead a GOD center life.
Our individual relationship with GOD is very unique.
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@KelvinChan (76)
• Singapore
4 Mar 07
This is also one of my reason. I love children and have 3 kids myself. They just bring so much joy to my family. I would not be able to experience this joy if I am still single.
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@florenciascorner (381)
• United States
8 Mar 07
I think for most people, it's a matter of when you love someone you want to be with them all the time. Most of us live in a culture that says, in order for that to happen you must get married. I know in some countries it's more of a duty...to bring money into the family etc.
@KelvinChan (76)
• Singapore
8 Mar 07
One of the best reason to me - LOVE. If both parties also feel that they want to be with the other person all the time, then get married :-)
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@smith21471 (80)
• United States
4 Mar 07
The reason I got married is because, I knew that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with the man I fell in love with. I want to have a family and grow old together. And I couldn't see my future without him in it. :)
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@KelvinChan (76)
• Singapore
4 Mar 07
Yes, that is true love. Love with all you have and do not expect anything in return - unconditional.
I like your statement "I couldn't see my future without him in it". So simple and yet so powerful!
Wow! Love with all your heart and you shall receive abundance in return. All the best to you.
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