my brother is about to go to war

I responded to your other question, and will to this one also. When your brother returns he more then likely will not be the same person. He will be someone who has seen, heard and done things that most of us never will. It will take time for him to get back to himself, and some things that he once did he may not do, and he will pick up new behavior. Some people have more drastic changes then others. You just need to be supportive not matter what. Also, do not get conserned if you do not hear anything for weeks, most of the time that is how long it takes them to get your mail when they are out in the field or in action. Mail is really really slow. So sometimes it takes what seems like forever to hear from them. It will be okay, just remeber to write them too, and make let them know that you are thinking of them. Sometimes being there they feel like they are secluded from the rest of the world and getting letters ect. helps them stay connected. Good luck to you again and if you ever need to talk ect. feel free to email me. Been there and done that with this military stuff.

My brother literally just got back....as in the last 48 hours. He has been on two year long tour in Iraq and Iran. It is very hard to deal with, but talking with your family and spending time with them is very relaxing. It does help to talk to people who have been in your situation or are currently in that situation. My brother had an incident where he was leaving on a Black Hawk within 48 hours to go into a dangerous are. The next day a Black Hawk was shot down and everyone was killed. To make it worse, he didn't call for three days after that. The best thing to do si to try to focus on something else...something specific. I was in school, so I studied really hard, or read a book. Talking helps; keep that in mind. Should you need a friendly ear, I am here. I was where you are not too long ago, and I might be able to help. Best wishes to you and your family: Stay Strong. It will be alright, I know it. Your brother will come home safe, and you will be there with open arms when he gets home, right? Let me know if you need a friend.

None of my siblings nor children has been to any war yet. And I do not wish any of them to be indulged in something as devastating an experience. It's my father. He was a world war II veteran and he had related about all the experiences he went through then. It was horrible. To think that the gadgets of war then is a far cry from what we have now, I can just imagine how difficult would it be to be exposed to an environment of war at this time. There is no way that the person who has gone to war will ever be the same upon his return. He has undergone some training required before anyone may be sent on such a mission. Then, as he gets engaged in a war, he gets a real life combat experience. Difficulties they will have to cope with is beyond description. Self preservation will be very much felt, and this time it can spell the continuance of the lives of everybody in the group which shall ensure the continuance of his own life. Yes, definitely he will be very much different, having been honed by the experience of having been into an actual real war. Let us always take cognizance though of the sacrifices these war heroes undergo, just to make sure that the works of evil shall not be triumphant over good.

I am from South-Africa, and I am praying for you and all the brave soldiers over there. They are keeping the whole world safe, I want to say thank you, to all the loved ones like you, who are suffering and fighting negative thoughts everyday, and going through hell and back.!! I SALUTE YOU ALL